Your words and how not to let them affect your relationship
28 September 2016, 17:40
Nairobi - Your words and how not to let them affect your relationship.
1. Always do it in private
No matter what you are talking about; even
simple teasing around the wrong company according to your partner can make them
feel a certain way. Have your arguments privately. Don’t let it be around
people who not only get to watch but would also like to give their two cents-
later or even then. Calling your partner aside or telling them you can talk
about it later is a sign of respect that makes them appreciate you more.
let other people influence how you talk to your partner
Relatives, friends or even colleague; most
relationships get to a bad place because when a certain partner is around
certain people. They jeer more or not even want to listen to their partner.
This can make someone every frustrated and it will reach a point it becomes
blatant disrespect when one of your parties feels like they are part of the
conversation and can talk down to your partner. And you let them! It can create
insecurity in the other person.
you say when you are arguing
For example; ‘Like mother like daughter….I
remember when you told me that story and now you are just the same.’ ‘You are
just as stupid as your father…’
When someone tells you things in
confidence, during an argument is not the right time to show you were paying
attention. Don’t use secrets shared to insult. It sticks and it influences
whether they will ever tell you anything again.
you ever for once ever say nice things?
Some couples just have bad things to say to
each other; publicly and even privately. It can look like a jest to outsiders
but you may find it is an everyday occurrence in a relationship. Someone
eventually gets tired.
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