You are still having sex with your ex; what does it mean for you
10 August 2016, 17:36
Nairobi - Rule No 1 of break ups, don’t have sex with
Aside from the fact that you are not
actually moving on, you do not get the clarity that you needed when it comes to
them. Basically, sex clouds judgment.
You do not get the space that you needed
when it comes to rethinking things or figuring out why the relationship had to
end. In the end, if the both of you decide to get back together, it is not
because you realized what they meant for you because you actually did not have
space. Healthy space.
On the other hand, someone can just be
using you while they seek other people. You are not moving on, you will be
there thinking you are on the same page but they are just keeping you around
for sex while they look for the partner they actually want to be with. When
that happens it will be you, picking up the pieces over again while they move
on. You were just convenient for a friends with benefits situation where they
did not even have to go out on a limb to get one in the meantime.
Don’t use it as a strategy to win them
As mentioned, sex clouds judgment. You
might not even want to be with someone but because you are still getting
horizontal with them, you assume the issues are fixed. If you do not do it
straightforward, then the issues are still there.
Don’t have sex with the ex when they get
into a new relationship, find your own relationship. If they want you, they
will not have the other person around. Don’t believe anything someone says when
they are trying to get you naked.
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