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Women’s fear of settling down

27 July 2016, 16:03 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi - Unlike for the men where ‘losing their freedom’ plays an important part, it can be there for women but it does not play such a big role. For us, it works differently.

More and more women are opting to remain single or focus on their career first before marriage because of many reasons;

Ending up having chosen the wrong man

See some marriages, both of aged couples and young marriages, finding out how each person’s choice ruined some things for them and how life has literally been turned upside down. You will not want to be in the same situation ever. Here is where women apply- prevention is better than cure. It is not that the men are not there, they are but you would not want to end up with someone who will jinx the rest of your life if not a portion of it.

Because we all know that marriage does actually change things

Mostly for women by the way unless you have that new age, millennial of a husband who will respect your time and work as you should his. The type of husband that will actually help take care of the child because he also knows you are soon going to work. Men ask for paternity leave but ask me where you will find them, not changing diapers I ASSURE YOU.

For a woman, the minute you choose to get pregnant, that child actually is your life now- you will have to put you on hold. No me time, or work, or social life- if there is social, it is odd days, it is now time for family.

So when a woman chooses to deal with her career and self-improvement before marriage and men, it is because we know that some of those goals take a back seat or worst case scenario you never ever get time. You tell yourself, let me give birth first, then I will go back-child 1 then child 2 by the time you are done you are just tired.

Ending up with a misogynist

Our mothers and grandmothers married misogynists. Very few men believe in 50-50, even with this era. But the women’s thinking has changed, no one wants to be in a situation she can choose to do without if that person does not hold her as an equal. Especially if it is that women doing half of everything. Therein lies the problem. It is rarely 50-50 but 99-1 or if he is trying too hard 80-20 but if he is even close to 40% you and 60% him; his soul is dying.

 We do lose freedom

You see the way men are worried about losing out on the women he still sees, outings with the boys he can still easily go to; for women, you do lose personal freedom. As soon as I am giving birth, there is obviously no way I am in the club because there is that time to heal and when I am pregnant I cannot swill alcohol and be in the club as well-totally weird.

I cannot leave without running around looking for a nanny- the right nanny and even so when emergencies happen, they call the mother first. Father normally finds out while being told a story after the event. Then there is the husband who forgets how to function after getting a wife- that is her job now. If he tries, it is to remember where his shirts are. Women do lose freedom after marriage. It is a fact if you sit down and actually think about it.

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