Women to blame for dropping male standards
06 January 2016, 14:12
Nairobi - See I don’t blame men because when they all keep
offering is to bring you to their house instead of taking you out, it is not them
but the women who came before and agreed to that. If you are a woman feeling
blessed that a man is inviting you to his place without the proper channels, you
are not blessed but easy.
I was fielding the same type of conversation with different
people, okay men, about the proper way to go about a date is. Like he wants
something serious, but no, dates are overrated. Yes, why don’t you just come
over to my place and we see how that goes. I had to put myself on pause and
wonder if it was a vibe I was giving but then I realized I only had encountered
this with mostly Kenyan men. Because every other person I come across is respectful and gentlemanly but Kenyan men want the shortcut to the cookies then still have something to say about
Why is it so easy for
your man not to buy you lunch but spend over a couple of thousands on drinks
Because the simple answer has always been that you allow it.
If he can get away with it the first time what makes you think he will change
the tune afterwards when you have convinced him of your worth. That is what
most women do. Let me play his tune in the beginning and when I have hooked
him, he will play mine. Not! The stripper will continue getting the money while
you keep staying at home ruffling stuff from the cupboard you stocked yourself.
Let me just go to his
house this one time, I will beat a different drum next time
Yea, what will happen while you are at the house is not just
talk because eventually someone will figure out how to drop the panties. ‘We
are going to do it either way; I am not trying to be friends but more with you.
So what is the difference between now and then?’ ‘Uuum, I don’t know let’s get
to know each other more at least.’ ‘That will also happen but I like you a
lot.’ Before you know it, it happens and when you leave you already know that
you are now going to be the one doing follow up phone calls and trying to set
up a date. If the sex was whack, you already know pinning that man down will be
What is wrong with
splitting the bill?
You already know that if someone is the one that did the
inviting then they pay. If they make you pay, there is a problem. Going Dutch
is awesome and that is only after you two have settled into a comfortable
routine. But when you allow some man who did the inviting to twist your arm
about the modern ways then you already know this one is coming into your life
to stress you. A man who likes you will have no qualms about spending on you
but if from day one he is avoiding it, there is another that is being spent on.
Meaning you aren’t the only one in his boat he is just looking for the one easiest
to manipulate in his little harem.
The worst is when after the first two times, it now becomes
a thing where you are paying for both your meals on your tab or you shop for
his groceries every time and cook it yourself while he just sits back and
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