Women and 30 years old
13 April 2016, 19:05
Nairobi - See, I was reading something and it was talking about how
you can only have the best of the following when you are in your thirties. I
just don’t like people lying to other people; especially when it comes to young
women because that is how they end up making mistakes when they should rectify
them because they think they still have time. You do not have time and because
I like being that person; I just have to say it, when you are thirty, you are
older and the time is ticking more and more. Before you know it, you are forty,
and then fifty and you did not even see that coming. It was 2000 just a few
months ago and it is already 2016; if you are still not getting the idea, I
cannot say more.
That is how most women in that age group end up making a
rush of things. You rush your decisions because now, you are starting to
realize that you made the wrong moves at the best time of your life.
It is okay to make mistakes in your twenties, I agree, but
make them and let them improve you. Do not make them and lie to yourself that
you still have your thirties to muddle through it and make it alright.
You can have a good
career and you can also have a good man in your life.
Wrong feminists are already in their feelings because I am
saying you cannot have a life without a man but that is part of the problem.
But you can have a life without a man only that if you want one, why are you
pretending that you don’t? There is nothing wrong with feminism; only when it
is used to create hate against another gender is when it is wrong. We are
African women and we do want the same things if not more of what our mothers
had. We just go about it the wrong way.
A certain lady I know, in her mid-thirties came to a
realization last week. You see a lot of people got a bit out if their daze when
Mr. Call-me-less got married or married-whichever. She realized that she wants
a relationship and now she has no idea where to start. She wants a husband, a
good husband but she already has a kid. It is hitting her on all those men she
ignored because she did not feel like they were in her caliber. She had a
top-notch career and she wanted a high class man to match it but now she is
already aging and the men she has to go for have to be older. This is Kenya; if
you go for a young man just know he is there to play with you. I always tell
women, perky breasts have a lot of sway because men in her age group are
looking for women in their twenties. Not all of them are dim, most are smart,
educated and have their lives together. Now who is this particular lady left to
choose from? Just think realistically for a minute-realistically!
In her 20s she assumed as long as she had brains, smarts and
beautiful she would get hers when the time came but see with her time, the
women in that age group also improved.
Don’t make the same mistakes she did. If you want a family and to age
with a man in your life; when you see that man and he is good to you, and
everything else you can work with-don’t dilly dally, don’t be stupid. Don’t
wait. Don’t think you have time; the guy will move on and will find someone
else. Then when you decide you are ready, you will have to settle in most cases
and I bet you, you will not be happy. There is always that one lucky one that
gets someone good for them but it is rare.
Men in their 30s, choose women in their 20s. Men in their
40s, choose women in their 20s and late 20s early 30s. Early thirty means 31.It
is very hard and very rare to find them settling with their own age mates. So
women in their 30s land men in their 50s and above. As an African woman, you
know you will not be happy that way.
So don’t be shallow in your 20s and think you can be mean
because you are waiting and have time. If a situation presents itself take it.
If it does not, then you do not have to force it, you wait and be open minded.
Don’t be so close-minded.
If you are in your 30s, that does not mean that you have to
lose. Be open minded to other cultures if yours is not working out. We all know
how most African men are Neanderthals; it’s the truth, especially Kenyan men.
He will just want you for business but nothing more and maybe laugh because he
is reminiscing on all the men you dissed. Just go across borders. Be
open-minded, you don’t have to settle if you do not want to.
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