Why you should deny him sex
22 March 2016, 21:44
Nairobi - The only time a man is rushing things with a woman is when
he knows he has hit a jackpot so he will make it his mission to get her where
he needs her to be before some other man does it and gets a head of him. He
will want to move in. He will be talking about marriage. He will be talking
about settling down and he will be ready to have children with her as soon as
possible. Not as soon as she wants them, but as soon as yesterday in his
opinion because we all know that kids are the real deal closers because before
then, someone can easily walk away.
Thing is, the above scenario is rarely the case for most
women. Most women go through that phase where they meet the guy, they date and
hit the sack before relationship discussions then the guy will go, ‘UMMM, I
think we rushed. I am not ready; we should take this slow because I still have
some baggage from the last relationship.’
He did not remember he had baggage before you took off the
panties but that is the point. Until a man gets you where he wants and needs
you, he will be rushing you and talking about how deep his feelings have been
growing for you and he is ready for the next stage.
That cooling off period that he takes is the one that the
man uses to re-evaluate whether whatever he is feeling or was feeling for you
was that big of a deal or it was the small head that was thinking.
That is why that no matter how involved a man was in you and
you start threatening how you will leave him and he agrees; he just realized
that after the sex, there was nothing else in it for him. That is why he will
quickly lose interest because he now can think clearly that the conversation
was not that deep but flat. You two basically talked about nothing and have no
common interests. Nothing ties the both of you to each other.
That is why you are told, hold off on the sex and give the
man time to get to know you. Fall in the trap of allowing him to rush you or you doing the rushing because you think
you are all that in the sex game; you will get burnt.
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