Why women have to lie to men at times
16 May 2016, 10:30
Nairobi - I have two guys trying to convince me to be in a
I just had to tell them not to tell me those lovey dovey
things for the first one and the other one I had to tell I like being single.
So he asks me why because he wants to be my boyfriend and I
had to tell him I just don’t like explaining myself to people. Men have a
tendency in relationship especially if he likes you and that like progresses to
something more. He tells the lie you can
easily tell, ‘No I will let you live your life.’
You already know he is lying because you have watched his
When people talk about wanting freedom even while in a
relationship; that is what they are talking about. Some people don’t know how
to be alone and once they have convinced you to be with them; you just start
seeing the signs. So you start to wonder if you made a bad decision or you are
just a quitter.
They want to put you in a box and throw the keys away. Not
all men like showing off the women in their life and her having a good time
without him. This is why some men don’t like girls’ nights out and then there are the other ones that will not
believe you are actually just sitting down having lunch with a woman.
When I want to leave the house, I just want to leave and not
be cross-checked, referenced, CID investigated. So I will leave in a jolly good
mood and maybe am just there in the market looking at tomatoes or deep in
thought or whatever and you see the man;
‘Where are you?’
‘Why don’t you want to answer the question? If you are not
doing a bad thing you would tell me where you are.’
Now I don’t even want to say am just in the market minding
my business and he is ruining it. Now I want to make up stuff because I did not
sign up for drama from my man.
So now with my dusty self I will lie how am out with people
because I know even if I say am in the market he will not believe. And you will
meet him or go back to the house and you know you are about to be annoyed
because rather than go somewhere himself, he is waiting to see how you look and
if you could have been with people.
You will be cross checked in that smooth tone conversation
while he is trying to look harmless just because you went out without him.
Men normally complain of needy woman but now there is that
version of the same from men and it can be tricky dating him.
I have these monologues with myself and they are the reason
I will just tell a man when I see how he is acting just from knowing me and I
will say, ‘I want to be a nun. I want to be a sister. This is why you don’t see
me with men. I am dedicating my life to God.’
By the way men, at times your wife or girlfriend is not
doing shady dealings like you actually are. She just wanted to have fun without
you; relax. You can’t take it that seriously. Let me not even get to the ones
that will help you pick your outfit but not like ‘Hey that looks good. ‘He will
pick the most normal undertone thing telling you how you don’t need to show
True, then you complain when she is a wife and does not care
anymore when she wears the same drab shirts you encouraged. This is how I know
men don’t know their minds half the time. So I will just do my thing, and the
one who likes me will not need to change me or box me.
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