Why successful women fail in relationships
20 November 2015, 12:41
Nairobi - Why do successful women do badly in relationships.
Do they place very high standards on themselves?
Does this type of woman expect more from you as compared to
her other counterparts; the ones that are not doing so well and expect you to
do it for them?
Obviously she will not want to relent on the things she
thinks she deserves. She knows she is bringing more to the table unlike the
other one whom you could have chosen, who is expecting you to do it all for
her. For her paying for a meal and helping her sort her bills is not what she
wants from you but more. For most men, when you take that out of the equation
they get blinkers because now they are thinking this one is just going to stress
me. You cannot shut her up with money, she can get it herself. You cannot bully
her by not taking care of your responsibilities because you will most probably
be the one getting kicked out. For most men, there security in a relationship
lies in what he is doing for that woman that she needs desperately done. If she
does not need it, she becomes a headache that he does not want any part of.
Partners do end up being resentful of each other
Most relationships as much as couples don’t acknowledge it
come from a need that the other person is serving in the others life. There is
something they are doing for you and you are doing for them. One is always the
one making sure the other has rent money or is helping them sort something out
to do with their career (scaling the ladder). One is usually paying for the
dates or cab fare. In such a relationship though, it is different. The need
factor is taken out. You are both successful (hopefully) and she is successful
doing well on her own so he gets confused as to what she needs. He ends up not
paying for dates because he does not want to seem like he is against female
empowerment, so they go Dutch. She keeps quiet when even the simplest things he
does not do and she does not want to seem needy.
Resentment builds up because she is now asking herself, what
he is bringing into my life other than sex and the answer is nothing. She dumps
him and he is grateful because that relationship was frustrating he would
rather pay for gas and weave it seems and he never looks back while she
continues looking for a man who will ‘get’ her.
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