Why most men do not know the diffence between love and sex
16 October 2016, 05:57
Many young women have been pushed into doing things they do not want to do simply because they gave in to pressure. Most men will not back down until consummation occurs. Some of these young ladies have been made to believe they have to sleep with their partners in order to show them how much they love them. This is a big misconception as most of these ladies end up being shattered after they break up. It is quite possible for you to share beautiful moments with a man without getting down; there are many couples who waited till their wedding nights. This did not change the feelings they have for each other as they learned to treat each other with respect before consummating their love.
Most men do not know how to tell love apart from lust; everything is in one direction for men like that. They believe everything they do with a woman has to boil down to bodies grinding and staying entwined for hours. There are a number of factors that could be responsible for that. This piece is going to reveal the reasons men confuse love with sex; this will help you a great deal as you will be able to do things the right way from this moment.
Find below some of the reasons men do not know the difference between love and sex:
1. Insecurity. It has been observed that one of the reasons men cannot tell the difference between love and sex is insecurity. They settle for sex and tell themselves they are in charge; they also coerce the women they come in contact with to do their will in order to prove they love them. This is because some of these men convert their need for intimacy, love, care, comfort and affection into sexual desires. Once they are able to get this from their partners, it is translated to love. Men who have low self- esteem tend to mix up these two things.
2. The need to be held. Some men opt in for sex when they are depressed and sad; they believe consummation will help them come out of that dark place. The physical comfort they also get from being held sends the wrong signal to them; many of them translate this to be love. Sex makes many men feel they already know the women enough; they skip the important steps they need to take in order to know the women.
3. Pseudo-charm. Most times we meet people, we often get carried away by their charms. These charms send the wrong message to the brain and body. Most people find themselves in the bedroom before they could say jack; because things happen very fast sometimes, some men do not know what to make of the union.
4. Both end the same way for men. Another reason why some men cannot tell the difference between love and sex is as a result of their mentality. Many men treat both the same way; sex can be different from love if it was taken as an action that supports reproduction or when it is being done for distraction. Love is expected to writhe and moan with pleasure beneath them. Sex happens with the men getting emotional at one point or the other.
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