Why modern day marriages are failing
27 June 2016, 16:58
Nairobi - I really like that show with Bi. Msafara (hope I got the
name right) she really makes my Saturdays. This past weekend she was talking to
us ladies on the appropriate ways of opening the doors for our husbands when
they get home. My mother and I have this
non-verbal communication sort of thing, we did not even have to speak but we
just stared at each other and burst out laughing because this woman is really
hilarious. So mother asks me what she means when she says there is a style of
‘I think she means, for example you, that time when father
never used to have his own keys and would come at home at two in the morning.
So you open the door angrily and bang it shut in his face, then throw the keys
in his face and turn off the lights as you go back to sleep.’
She knew what I was talking about and she laughed harder.
‘This woman is telling us that when the man comes home past midnight, not from
work but from the bar. We should humbly smile and serve supper with a cordial
smile because the man of the house has arrived and we need to be catering?
Never mind he is not from work.’ She proceeds to ask me and I say, yes I think
that is what she means. Then we laughed harder.
This is why modern day marriages will never make sense to
the old folks and maybe that is why they are failing at a fast rate. We are
just not here to stay up all night wondering where someone is when they have a
mobile phone to call or you call and they turn the phone off. Phones ruined
everything. At least before you would worry they had gotten robbed or lying in
a ditch somewhere. Now we have confirmation of where you are.
Before women were at home by four if they even worked and
that is why they would be ready with the supper, all catering and loving. Now
we are also at work like you, in traffic like you and getting at home the same
time if not later than you. So when you
expect your wife to treat you the same way your mother treated your father yet
you know she never went to work; you have a long day coming. Maybe that is why
our marriages are not working but failing.
I am not even going to talk about you getting home at twelve
and expecting me to be awake and we all know it is not work. Let us just be
realistic and honest with each other. Expectations from both parties are based
from old school theory but cannot be practiced because we are living different
lives. The door can have more than three spare keys, why do I have to be awake?
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