Why it is important for a husband to communicate his financial situation to the wife
06 October 2016, 16:06
Nairobi - I was talking to a particular man on the
phone but it was that thing that men do. You send a message and he does not
reply or he chooses what to reply to and ignore the rest.
So we had a sort of
disagreement and he asks me why I am overreacting. I told him he has poor
communication skills and when he does not tell me what I need to know I make up
my own answers in my head- which don’t favour him.
What does this have to do with men and
their financial situation with regard to their wives? As a man, when you do not
tell your wife what you are up to with money, she makes up her own answers in
her head. They are answers that do not favour you.
times your wife does not know you actually do not have the money when she asks
you for something
She will think you would rather spend it on
your ‘boys’ or she will make up a girlfriend that you would rather spend it on
or she will come up with a child she does not know about that you do not have
but will make sense to her.
Maybe she has seen your pay slip and she
wants you to buy her something then you tell her you do not have money. She
will think you do not appreciate her enough to want to spend on her. That will
make her a very uncomfortable company for you even though you might not have
done anything other than maybe invest or save. If it is ten thousand you are
left with in your account and not the forty thousand she is thinking; you need
to tell her that. But she will ask where the rest has gone though.
needs to know if you have a budget
For the smart men, there are some who spend
their whole salary on one weekend. We are talking about a man that actually
plans and knows what goes where. That will make sense to her. She needs to know
your budget not the budget you give her. There is a difference because even if
you give her all expenses covered for the whole month she will still find
something t ask you for. The best is when you tell her, ‘This month I only
intend to spend this, you can have this and the rest is here.’ If on the other
hand you just hand her hers she will have an imaginary place in her head as to
where the rest you have not indicated has gone to.
you have a reason why she will be having less dates and nights out or gifts,
tell her from the beginning
Maybe you want to save more or have a
business in mind. Don’t wait for her to ask you why you no longer do something
for her. This is where imaginary girlfriends come in. You have to let her know
that you are trying to set something up.
Communication is what affects every part of
any healthy or unhealthy relationship. Poor communication leads to
misunderstanding and disagreements.
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