Why is it so hard to find the good men?
24 March 2016, 15:35
I literally thought of all the good men I know and I can admit if I am considering them as good husband/ boyfriend material for some women; they are only around five. Like the really good men that I would not really be embarrassed to introduce to a good woman to date. Obviously I would not do them the disservice of introducing them to some women I know.
But why is it so hard for me to come up with more numbers? Someone I would consider-obviously I would not consider friends but would rather forward them to my fellow associates and I am sure I am not the only woman that is wondering where the good men are.
We are not talking about what you do, how much you earn or how much of a good provider you can be to her and her family but your qualities as the man in her life; someone who will respect her and not play around with her, men who already understand themselves and don’t need someone to hold their hand and force them into what they should be. Those are the men some women look for. I said some because honestly I cannot talk for most women.
The good men always have a lot of options
I always tell women, when you see a really good man, don’t doubt for a minute that another one has not tried to trap him and this ones are the ones you give a pass when they come into a relationship with a child from a previous relationship. You know he is good, so do other women.
A good man will also have too many options such that it gets to a point for him to give you a chance for even a second; you are just like the rest in his mind. So he might never even get to know you. It is not you that is the problem, but all those women in his phone, his work, his social media, and his life.
Marriage is no longer taken that seriously and is sort of becoming obsolete
The good men will sure not be the ones to rush into it as long as they keep seeing the bad guys suffering in it as well. Look at it this way. Men know men; so a man will know if a fellow friend has good character or bad. So he sees this man is in a relationship despite all his issues and he sees the woman putting up with it. He sort of loses respect for her. Then he sees them get married and it already is in shambles within a year despite everything the woman does and puts up with. Same applies for his good friend who puts up with a woman who has turned out to be not so good. Do you think he is about to put himself in either situation. Marriage is no longer taken that seriously or that big of a deal so the man will decide to live his life as it is.
He does not want to put himself in an irrevocable situation that he can do without, so he does not search or put himself out there. Please, he has women willing to have his children without his daily input!
You need to accept that any good man can easily come with baggage
Women like it perfect and as I mentioned before, any good man worth his salt, some woman has tried to trap him. It is all going well until he tells you he has a kid, get over it because if it is not that it will be a crazy interfering family with a lot of sisters. So take your pick but don’t expect everything to be on your terms. Make do and make it work. You can as easily have the other man every woman is running away from.
Good guy will definitely be waiting for his match
Just take a good look at yourself. Then let us be honest. Some woman make demands but when you look at the person trying to give you demands you just mentally roll your eyes. A good man will surely be waiting for his match.
Someone even though she is not good but she will have what he needs because of what he brings to the table. So it is either you are a good woman or you choose that man you want and make sure you emulate the qualities he needs for you to even be considered. It is always that simple or you can be proud and keep waiting then become desperate eventually and pick whatever comes along.
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