Why I will not marry a Kenyan man
16 May 2016, 11:43
Nairobi - How Kenyan men try to be funny. We have to be specific by
saying Kenyan because they are a funny bunch to date. This is why I never rule
you out while I am dating. Although I have to be honest, when it will come to
marriage you guys I am running away. I have made a vow to not marry a Kenyan
man. It is nothing personal, I am not a hateful person but you guys scare the
hell out of me. I have a lot of respect for you guys and your cunning ways; I
know I cannot manage to handle a lifetime with a Kenyan man he will kill me
with his surprises.
Did you see how the Late Jacob Juma’s women came to
I will be out here thinking am special to someone and the
man has ten women all over. They all
know of me but I know nothing of them. Then Kikuyu men are stingy. I have dated
you and I know am not made for that life where my proposal will be made at a
Kibanda. No offense, I also like kibandas-for food- they have good chapatti and maharagwe but I don’t do well in living an everyday struggle life.
I can’t be with someone who will get mad at me every time I buy something new.
If you even have a Kikuyu boyfriend and he proposes just know he woke up on the
wrong side of the bed. Kikuyu guys are not romantic-sorry to say. I am just
Maybe it’s me, but that has been my luck.
I see Kenyan men constantly complaining about the women but
really; how do you even hide the fact you have three wives. Are the women the
ones that are stupid or they just did not care? That is why we are crazy
because you know I am already reading your texts from a continent away just to
make sure you are not playing me. You are the ones that have made us the way we
are. I need to be with someone that I don’t have to check on and be insecure
about. I have more important things I would like to think about as a married
woman other than wondering if my man’s business trips are his escapades with my
fellow other woman.
When you see women that are hungry to get more from you when
you are alive, it is because we are just seeing what you do. Now this lovely
lady (maybe she knew about them, but she is Kikuyu, she knew. I know Kikuyu
women are not stupid), the public wife, is out here thinking she and her
children are the only heirs and she is about to be a billionaire. Now she has
to split it with all these people that are coming out from hiding. They were
all coming out from wherever like they did not get an invitation-Kenyan
men-wow! You think it’s funny but it really isn’t when you might have shared
the most important days in your life with someone and you find out you are not
that special. He is everyone’s property.
When you see a woman not wanting to put you on any of her
documents and property it is because she knows that when it comes down to it
and you go before her; some women will be popping up trying to claim her
sweat. You have been keeping them in
hiding and now they are showing up looking for what she worked for.
Who wants to do her all for a man and find out she has been
sharing? Then that woman wants to come and be lazy then to try and take what I
have worked for? This is why am crazy because I do not like being taken
advantage of. And I know I cannot outsmart a man if he wants to do what he
wants to do. This is why I choose to stay away.
I don’t want to be in competition with a Kenyan man; they
are very smart and sneaky with the games-And shady dealings. It is like they
get bored at a certain point in life-around 30-40 when he has been married for
a bit. His work is great and he is set; then in that moment of realizing he is
bored and needs some action; they are not even going to bars any more with the
mates. You women are worried about the wrong things. They are now keeping wives
like a game of chance-like Russian roulette trying to see which one will find
out about his shady acts and bring drama.
Now that they have also discovered passports it is about to go
international and you know most women these days don’t care. They don’t care about you and your family and
kids otherwise that shakedown at this man’s funeral would have never happened.
This is why I decided not to marry a Kenyan man because you
all have games and you are getting better by the day. The worst part is, it is
like becoming a trend; this is why I have lumped all of you together. Maybe
there are the few good guys still around but no thanks, no need for me to take
chances with myself and my whole life. I am that good but am also not stupid.
So I will just look for a Christianly prayerful man who is right with God (more
afraid of God than of me so he will not want to sin) so that I don’t get mad
trying to check on him but key is, he will be foreign. You will go crazy trying to figure out what
your Kenyan man is up to. All this why; because me finding out I am sharing
will make me craz-ier?
Women tend to think they are smart and this is why I tell
you, if he is cheating now and you try to tell yourself you are FBI, that man is
still going to find a way. Even if you put GPS on his phone, he will buy
another one no matter how poor he is, put it where you want to see him be and
use the other one to get with his favorite of the week. You have a choice, live
with it or move on to the next one but don’t think you can outsmart a man and
him being shady.
Gosh, now this woman was about to have all these millions
and she now can’t do that because all these children need education-and they
are also young so that is University fees now. Just when you think life is
giving you a gift for your years of loneliness, Satan is there to remind you,
you aren’t that smart. Can you imagine his will being read? Does he even have
one because the Luhya are superstitious; they don’t make wills because they
think that is your death wish. Now there is about to be a tussle if this man
just went. I feel for the wife already.
I have some choice words I would like to use to drive my
points home but my editor is always on me about being respectful because they
are a respectful organization; so Kenyan men, you only have yourselves to blame
for the type of women we are.
Can you imagine, I tell myself I am holding a man down and
taking care of him to find out I am paying rent for another woman-I will kill
you and her. Sorry to say. You better just come and tell me you want another
woman; I will let you go but don’t make me look stupid crying about love and
your secretary knows what you look like naked.
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