Create Profile

Creating your profile will enable you to submit photos and stories to get published on News24.

Please provide a username for your profile page:

This username must be unique, cannot be edited and will be used in the URL to your profile page across the entire 24.com network.

Facebook Sign-In

Hi News addict,

Join the News24 Community to be involved in breaking the news.

Log in with Facebook to comment and personalise news, weather and listings.


MyNews24 is a user-generated section of News24 Kenya. The stories here come from users.

Latest Badges:

Why I am not ready for a serious relationship

26 July 2016, 15:03 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi - I wanted to say you but I figured let me just talk about myself because I do not know what your case is but maybe you can relate.

We tell whether we are aging by looking at either the big 5 or the big 0. The others do not count. When it is five you know that you are halfway there and you panic a little bit then you get over it after some alcohol because at least it is not that one big 0 that scares everyone, 30. When you are 30 and you have not moved jobs since two years ago or progressed knowledge wise, study wise or professionally or basically in life. Living the same way you did three years ago or at 25, no business, no career moves or improvement-you die.

Relationship-wise, it is always a matter of, you can just flag someone you recently met or you have put on the backburner for a while. So it does not scare all of us. So I aged a bit a few months ago and I thought I am ready for a relationship- a serious one. Two months later I have changed my mind. I have too many things to do and I would really not like to encourage someone while they put themselves on hold for me.

First, I don’t think I have dated enough people. I have been in only one relationship, which ended two years ago and the rest that followed can’t be called relationships. I cannot get Mr. Right if I have no idea of all the Mr. Wrongs. I have not dated enough to know what I can put up with and what I can’t. I have an idea but I really do like to be thorough about some things.

Some man was giving me relationship advice, ‘…Being with someone is good for you because you share.’


I was just like, you know the other day I left work so tired and basically I just slept until morning now picture me with a boyfriend.

Me: ‘I am so tired let me just go to sleep.’

African boyfriend (maybe Kenyan): But what are we going to eat? (When a man has a girlfriend maybe wife she is in charge of his brain and stomach- I mean you cannot go to sleep until both are figured out)

Me: What do you want to eat?

Him: I don’t know I thought you were going to make something.

Me: Take out? We can order in something you like.

Him: That is expensive, just make something. I don’t like take out ata. I also have a girlfriend/wife. Why am I eating bought food?

I have nothing against cooking but let me just enjoy the freedom of going to bed without cooking for a bit or haggling over it. By the time my husband comes along I will just remember these days because I will have enjoyed enough.

Before you settle down you need to have a clear idea of what you want out of life and get someone who will not derail you from it. It leads to dissatisfaction. Marriage and being with someone has a way of making you compromise on a lot of things. That is not a bad thing but get a clear idea of what you want and be with someone who supports you and reminds you of it so that you are not crying ten years later about how you could have been this and that is the child had just not showed up too early or at the inopportune time; or if your spouse had not gotten that job that made you move. Those are  the types of compromises I am talking about. At times bills get shared and the money you could have put aside, becomes the only route to solve a problem that comes up. We talk about two people living together easing the burden but there are also challenges that come up like sorting your partner that one time a family member comes unannounced or someone is sick back at the village.

- MyNews24

Disclaimer: All articles and letters published on MyNews24 have been independently written by members of News24's community. The views of users published on News24 are therefore their own and do not necessarily represent the views of News24. News24 editors also reserve the right to edit or delete any and all comments received.

Read more from our Users

Submitted by
Jayne Zack
I am in ODM to stay, Busia Depu...

Busia Deputy Governor Kizito Wangalwa told Deputy President William on the face that he was in the Orange Democratic Movement to stay. Read more...

Boda Boda operators in Bahati rai...

Motorbike Boda Boda operators from Bahati Sub county on Tuesday took to the streets of Nakuru’s CBD lamenting over what they term is harassment by patrol police officers in the area. Read more...

Submitted by
Gabriel Ngallah
Human Rights activist lives in fe...

The Human rights fraternity in Mombasa is currently living in fear after the home of one of the vocal human rights champion was invaded on Monday night. Read more...

Submitted by
kel wesh
Poisonous milk powder siezed by K...

The Kenya Revenue Authority has seized two containers with illegal milk powder which had been declared as gypsum board at Mombasa port. Read more...

Submitted by
William Korir
Be ready for protests, Raila warn...

Expect protests if meddling with Auditor General continues, Raila Odinga has said. Read more...

Submitted by
Kenya says will return to interna...

Kenya will return to international markets to borrow when it feels the time is right, National Treasury Cabinet Secretary Henry Rotich said on Tuesday. Read more...