Why female sexuality had to be controlled
25 July 2016, 12:44
I read an article of a lady advising others that their bodies belong to them and that they should not be controlled or asked to be sexually pure by the church or society. They should instead engage in sex when they want to and not to please their husbands or anybody else for that matter. It made an interesting read and also made me reflect on the historical background and the rationale behind glorifying female chastity.
For many years in the past, work was a manual and tasking endeavor that required the tough back of men to work in building bridges, roads, in the farms, salt or coal mines and also to defend the community and family from marauding clans. A woman without a husband was adversely exposed. The men had excess of labor to supply to the union with his wife.
On the other hand, the woman could supply him with sex and possibility of propagating his gene pool and posterity through giving birth. The woman needed to be faithful to him alone so that he doesn’t work his butt off feeding other peoples kids. Understand that unlike a man who may struggle to have five sexual encounters with women in a day, a non-athletic middle-aged woman would manage 10 without breaking into a sweat. Women sexuality is more valued and many women have been able to live off it their entire prime years of life without any other employment.
An immoral woman or harlot was looked down upon because she was seen as lazy and exploitative person, living off other women’s husbands sweat and not willing to go through the rigors of being a faithful wife. Men may have sex to relieve themselves due to the strong sexual urge occasioned by high testosterone hormone levels. Unmarried women on the other hand are seen as engaging in loveless sex to exploit this weakness in men with the sole reason of gaining a favor - be it a promotion, college grade or money from the man. Sometimes, they get bastards in the hope of entrapping the wealthy man to 18 years of child support which is indirectly alimony for her. This was not good for business of raising well-adjusted children and peaceful homes.
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It was therefore logical that female sexuality had to be put in control. The man was expected to pay dowry for a lady and then own her sexuality. He was responsible for providing and protecting her and she was in turn responsible for raising his children. Marital rape was out of the question because her body did not belong to her alone. A woman with children before the union or getting children with other men during the union was going to complicate the matrix and was definitely frowned upon. virgin girls therefore did fit the bill of ideal marriage material.
Female sexuality is still a concern of many nations around the world. It is a criminal offence to have sex with underage girls below age of 16-18 years. This is the time their bodies are developing and they need to be in school developing a career and skills that will help them be good mothers and wives. Medics also advice ladies to have their children before age 40. This is due to the effect it has on the health of the mother and child. Her fertility index begin to dwindle at this age.
Women who choose to be promiscuous increase the spread of HIV and other STDs. Women who choose to have children outside the nuclear family place a burden on the state and other people to do the work of the nuclear family. If many women choose not to get children (due to career opportunities available like the case of Scandinavian countries), we get into a situation of more elderly people than the young population that needs to work to sustain the economy. Cost of labor goes high and production reduces.
Women as we see wield a lot of power with their sexuality and the society as a whole is a stakeholder and should be concerned. The society is the cat (no pun intended) or dog and should wag the tail not the other way round.
Moral of the Story: What we do as individuals affects others because we are interconnected and no one is an island.
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