Why do married people cheat?
06 June 2016, 17:08
Nairobi - I used the term married because in my
opinion, if you are in a relationship and it no longer satisfies you the way it
needs to; you cut it off and let everyone move along. No point in disappointing
each other in something that no longer works.
People who are married on the other hand
are normally in a sort of fix. You are bound; you have children, finances and
all those things to think about. You just get confused amid all that and wonder
what to do, so what do people choose? The short-cut; the one that you can hide
and if it does not work, you come back and pretend like you were not doing
Why do people cheat?
no longer get what they expected from the marriage
Expectations are a good thing-they make you
a visionary but they are also a bad thing because they make you assume a lot of
things you should not. From both sides, there is an idea of what and how
something should work. Marriage means, I get more sex. Marriage means he or she
will pay attention more. Marriage means I will have more of this and that until
life happens; in the name of career and responsibilities. Someone is now
married to work as long as they have given you the number of kids you wanted,
they can now concentrate on other things.
One person ends up feeling neglected and in
the end, cheating happens. It is only so long before someone gets tired of
begging for something when they are being offered by someone else.
of a feather flock together
There is a reason married people try to
control the type of friends that are around their spouse. Those habits have a
way of influencing the other. If you hung out with your ‘buddies’ that have
mistresses or boyfriends on the side; you have a lot of out of town trips. What
will happen when you notice that you are always the only one who is alone while
they have someone? You will eventually fall into the same habit-you will get
one yourself because you will find a way to justify why you need one just like
are not getting that attention from your own spouse
I am not saying people are children but
most marriages work like this; you marry someone and you eventually ignore
them. Your spouse has to be your boyfriend or girlfriend because they are still
a man or a woman. Don’t let someone else come in and help you do what you
should have been doing. Neglecting a spouse will lead to them finding another
way to deal with that empty space and we know these days, the married the
person, the more attractive they are to someone.
As small minded as it may sound; your
appearance does matter. They married you for the way you presented yourself,
took care of yourself, worked out, ate well and smelt nice. A few years of
marriage and people let go of themselves. Bad as it may sound, they will not
want to be seen with you, if it is extreme. So they look for the trophy. You
stay at home; the trophy goes to company events and trips so that someone is
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