Why blind dates are not for me
10 February 2016, 15:59
Nairobi - Where blind dates are concerned, I have just never been
successful. Trust me. I have had my share of meeting people before I have seen
them and most times it ended up with them catching me as I was fleeing.
If you ask me my opinion of someone ‘hooking’ you up with
someone you have never seen I will tell you no. You would rather see them and
investigate their qualities then ask someone to give you a helping hand. This
idea of people telling you I have a friend, first look at the person that is telling you they have a friend then
make the decision as to whether you want to meet someone associated with them.
You must wonder why I have such an aversion to them, or you
don’t but I will tell you anyway because they make for an interesting story.
While I was young,
I had two occurrences but I will tell you about the one that has always been
fresh on my mind. Someone exchanged my number on my behalf and decided to
acquire for me a better half. After a couple of conversations, this guy was
sounding nice, respectable and a gentleman; like someone I would not really
mind meeting. We set up a date to meet and kill all the curiosity. He knew me,
I did not know him. When you see someone excited to meet you, you are already
thinking that indeed they have something good to offer because they are not
hiding behind phone conversations.
I get to the designated area and as I look around there is
just that one person that is standing out; you overlook because you are
thinking it cannot be them. But it nags you because your eyes keep being drawn
back to them and since they seem to be waiting for someone you just know it is
them. You do not want it to be them but that weird character is your blind
date. Luckily, I had brought my friend along and as I pointed him out without
him noticing, we decided that this meeting was not going to happen. My phone
rings, I look at it and it is him calling. Standing on my side of the corner I
can confirm it because the weird guy is also holding his phone to the ear but
not talking. As I am fleeing, he comes and stands in front of us. I thought I
was smart. I try to act like I am just another stranger but he calls the phone
and stares pointedly at me. When I checked my phone the first time, he zoned in
on me checking it and knew I was trying to make an escape.
This man even in his effort to create a good first
impression, failed miserably. His jeans were tighter than mine; actually, his
whole outfit was tighter than my whole closet. You know that type-the ones that
squeeze into clothes and worst of all, it was denim-blue on blue denim;
accentuated with a brown belt to cinch everything in and brown shoes. I am 5”5
but still managed to look down at this man. The icing on the cake was that he
was cocky about himself and his self-importance. I immediately came up with an
emergency and introduced my friend as my sister who had come to get me. He
wanted to escort me and I just had to talk about how my father was waiting and
watching us on the other side of the street.
My friend has never laughed as hard as we walked to an
imaginary car with the imaginary father. We had to disappear because the guy
followed us some distance being insistent. He was not the first occurrence but trust me
he was the last for me. When you try to force things in your life, fate has a
way of showing you that other people’s way is definitely not your way. What
works for Terry will not work for you. I have never looked back since.
My one advice when it comes to blind dates is just that you
look at the person who is making suggestions to set you up first. Never
entertain someone who never tells you whom they got your information from. If you have to go on a meet; put your phone
on silent and choose a corner that gives you a view of everyone. If the person
is not looking like your type, you order your food and don’t look in that
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