Why a woman should see her man's payslip
12 January 2016, 16:00
Nairobi - I remember when we were kids my father thought he was very
clever. He thought between him and his wife, he was the smarter one. He never
told my mother his salary and he would go to a lot of pain to try and hide it
but you know how that one turned out. Today he will forget a hundred bill note
with last month’s pay slip in his trouser pocket and because he does not do
laundry; guess who found it. Tomorrow he would slip it under the drawer linings
but guess who put the laundry in their in the first place and folded;
definitely not him. His wife! It was a cat and mouse game we enjoyed watching
because my mother would just come and tell us how she found it then put it back
and act dumb. But she always knew the salary and when she asked for something
and he tried to play broke when she saw a cheque and its date; it caused rifts.
I had a boyfriend who tried playing the same games with me
but he does not know I learned from the best. I might not have known the exact
figure but I knew what was where and when and how it left.
It is hard for a man to want to tell his wife his salary
because we also understand some of us are not good with money and when she
knows you have it, the demands may escalate. That is just how it is.
But at times it is not just about her that she wants to know
about the money but because it just makes sense in a lot of ways
The men who lie about
earning a certain amount which never existed
Today’ s women for some have a lot of demands and with that,
there is that guy who will decide I want this women and so I will act like I
have what she wants to ensnare her. The problem with that is that, she lives a
life that neither of you can support until it gets the both of you in trouble.
Spending frivolously but he cannot complain because he lied and she is secure
in that lie until it all unravels and the two of you are in a mess. Nowadays though,
the women as well have also caught on and that is why for some, they will move
heaven and earth just to see that pay-cheque at least once to be sure that it is
not just a set up that will ruin the both of them. She wants to see it to be
sure that they are not in trouble, will not get in trouble and they have no
chance of getting in trouble. For a smart woman at least the careless one will
not be bothered until you are all in a pit.
To make sure you are
not busy digging graves for everyone
Just like there are women who are spendthrifts, there are
the men who are not good with money at all and are high risk takers. You might
be afloat but how liquid are you. The bills might all be paid this month but if
a salary does not come on time next month or someone gets fired; what will
happen? Do you have savings and an emergency account or is it all spent in one
swoop. Does she need to be worried in case one of her things does not work out?
Because it is not women alone who can be stupid with money; a husband can too
and it can mess the whole family.
To find out how many
households he is supporting
We are not talking about the ones who are supporting their
parents back at home or a sibling. The one’s who have an extended family that
depends on them but the one who has more than one wife and is trying to keep it
a secret or a mistress. The pay- cheques and transactions can speak volumes; that
is why women are bothered with pin numbers as well. At times she just wants to
know what she is dealing with when it comes to her husband and if there is
another woman who is contributing to the spending rather than the income. Or a
child that was never or has never been mentioned in the course of a
relationship that is being supported.
There are so many ways to discover lies and simply put;
pay-cheques are one of them.
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