When you date a cheating man...
29 March 2016, 21:17
Nairobi - I am not saying that it is your fault he is cheating but
what you need to know is that if a man keeps doing the same thing over and over
again (read; serial cheater); it is because he has learnt there is enough room
for him to keep doing it without repercussions.
Those ultimatums become a background song to his tune
because he can take them as long as he knows you will still be around. The
first time should always be the first and last limit for you. But if you keep
looking for what you did wrong or what makes her better than you, you end up
justifying him and in the long run, he will keep using it as an excuse. Making
up a new reason every time because he knows you will take the blame. If you are
not good enough for him to keep it in his pants, you have to keep it pushing
and moving really quick.
The other woman is
never the problem, your man is
If a woman keeps talking to your man, it is because she is
not having a monologue but a conversation. Your man should be the one to put
every other woman in her place if she coming from more than what she is
allowed. But you chasing her and investigating her or stalking her, he will
just go find someone else more convenient while you waste your time. If that
interests you, well, continue but stop harassing other woman, it is your man
that is the problem.
You keep him but in
your mind you are thinking you are going to change him
First time; let us talk about the problem. If a man is good
to you and for you, it will not happen again. At times there is that slip up
moment which as couples we allow.
Now first time, second time, third time and it is still
happening; that one is not changing. If he has been getting away with a lot in
that relationship, add this one to the list as well because he is not stopping
anytime soon. You have the choice of leaving if you want someone that will
respect you and the relationship.
Doing drastic things
in a bid to make him see your value in the relationship
And which is the first one that most women do? Get pregnant.
That is the worst time to do such a thing. In fact it is the time to
re-evaluate whether such a person is the one you want. A baby is always a
life-time commitment and maybe you do not want this person as the father. Don’t
push for the life-time decisions, wait and think. You might be smart enough and
make a good decision for yourself.
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