What to do when his family does not like you nor want to deal with you
28 June 2016, 16:28
Nairobi - What to do when his family does not like you nor want to deal with you or her family.
But men do not care most of
the time and when a woman makes up her mind nothing her family does or says
will change her mind. A man on the other hand is a different case. If his
mother says no, you can officially think of yourself as booted. If his sister
says no, it can discredit you especially if her respects her and her opinions.
If it is his bother and an older one at that, it is the same as the sister.
Men are more easily influenced by their
family’s opinions as compared to the women-we are stubborn, even if they are
right we will still dream of love.
Hence why women do the most to try and
impress the man’s family; but at times it might just ot be a good idea.
Creating a good impression on your initial
meetings is a crucial bit-everyone has to do that. You do your best, talk well,
are nice and go out of your way to make them comfortable. In my opinion, that
should be the end of it because anything surpassing that is akin to being taken
advantage of. Someone will say I am giving bad advice but what I am saying is
this, don’t go out of your way, if they are not willing to give you that
acceptance after getting to know you.
If your man lets his family walk all over
you, even after you have established you are seriously dating, you should do a
re-evaluation. They should respect you as the spouse/ partner; anything else
comes after you have established that relationship with them. Unless he is a
scalawag and now you are a scalawag as well by association.
If they make you bend over backwards, do
favors, and what not doing all those things will not change their minds later.
They will not have that respect that they should have for you and that is why
some women end up being stressed by relatives in their own home. You thought
after doing all that, they would eventually cave but it is getting to be more
and more and even worse. And when you don’t play their game, you are set aside
and made to feel like a fugitive. Earn your respect from a man’s family from
the beginning. If they cannot take you without the trinkets, they shall have to
put up with you then.
If on the other hand you play, trust me,
you will never win.
Keep to the points; respect everyone as you should, and let them do the same for
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