What men want that women don't know
02 February 2016, 20:53
Nairobi - It is the age old question where a woman’s vanity steps in
to question why a man would pick someone else and leave her behind. What does
she have that I do not? In fact, I might even have better but yet he chose her
and not you?
Her commitment to
work hard with him
Right now, I can tell you that no woman in our society wants
to date potential. Few will still try it but they go in already afraid. Not
because the women are trying to get to wherever they are going faster but
because of the lessons learnt. Even I am afraid of dating potential. Each woman
knows some woman who tried it and when the man finally made it; he decided he
liked shinier things. She was a part of him that was bad, now he needs
something that will announce his status before he speaks. So as much as the men are complaining that
the women who are ready to work from the ground with you are far less in
between; you men are actually to blame. You might not be the man in question
but some man did it to some woman and the word got around; your lady just does
not want to be part of that statistic.
But for most men, they do look for that woman who will
accept his current situation and be open minded enough to wait and work with
him for both to get what they want. They want a woman who sees his vision as
well and is willing to forego a couple of dates but stay at home until he
finally makes it. If you are that woman, you will never fall short of men who
will want to be with you. The trick is in identifying the clowns from the legit
guys. The ones you know they will always uplift you as their woman when they
get there. Not the ones that will toss you aside like yesterday’s garbage
because he now deserves better.
Her state of mind
While you are dating what is your state of mind?
For most of us we go in confident and lady like and full of
really cool ideas but wait until that man actually starts paying you attention.
Independent woman with independent brain goes down the drain. Your life now
revolves around him. You let go of your life and how you were working on in
terms of your own vision to concentrate on the guy. That becomes suffocating by
the way. It just becomes too much when he has to keep pausing himself or
putting his own things down in order to cater for your demand of attention.
You need to learn how to compliment a guy coming into your
life rather than supplementing your whole existence for him.
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