What does a man in progress look like?
05 September 2016, 21:02
Nairobi - Women are still baffled by this question.
You want to settle down. It is not like you
want a rich ready-made man- you are ready to make it work with someone who
wants to work with you. Thing is, you are not really sure if your judgment is
right up the right alley to prevent you from getting with the lames. You know, the guy that looks like
potential but only ends up confusing your life for the next 20 years.
Even I am afraid of potential; honestly
speaking. Sometimes I normally feel like I am making a good decision and after
the outcome two days later, I am just like, ‘maybe I am really just a dumb
Can you imagine if it is someone you are to
spend the rest of your life with and ten years later you realize that you literally
sh***ed on your own life. That is what women are afraid of.
The other day this man asked me out and I
had to play dumb. I was like, ‘what do you mean out? Out like rave because I
don’t have time I always have work or you mean out to eat. You know I am busy,
He says whatever I want. That closes up all
my excuses so I pretended I would find time. I might but I don’t trust this
one. He literally told me his life story, about his foreign father and what he is up to in under an hour of meeting him.
I don’t trust men who talk a lot and tell me what they think I need to hear
because now I know you are lying and I just have to find out what you are lying
about. That is one problem women have with finding the right, man in progress-
men lie a lot so you are never sure of what someone is saying.
This same man told me he was working on
himself so with that regard, he pulled out of school and he will eventually go
back after a year. With this whole narrative came a very fancy course that would make any women impressed because it is the
type that ensures future generations to come will be catered for.
But a year has been over and I have never
seen him make any effort towards going back, leave a lone talk of it or mention
it again or whatever so he might just be lying about whatever he is doing. I
can also assure you, he is not trying to do some personal business. He is up to
some shady business and he is trying to involve me as a future baby mother.
This is why I am not trying to go on any
dates with this man or be his anything; he is shady and he is the type of shady
all women are afraid of when you speak of potential. He is not a bad man but I
know he is not trying to make me live in some shack. I have plans and my ideal
future which is not one he can fit in in any way.
When women talk about a man in progress, it
is that effort that they have to see. Effort to be better not just be stagnated
in the same place year in, year out and being satisfied. Then you are seeing
that she is doing well and you want to bring problems in her life. Just leave
her alone if you are not ready and call her whatever names you like. At least
she knows what she wants and she is working toward it. Not waiting for a push
Maybe if he looked like he was trying to
get back on his feet or have plans I would be interested. I keep seeing him though
in the same place with the same circus I left him that tells me not much has
So I just smile, maybe I will go eat on a
sunny day not at night and I will definitely have a curfew this day.
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