What dating past thirty is like
30 May 2016, 19:06
Nairobi - I wanted to say ‘what dating when you are old is like’ but I did not want to give some people a panic attack. Some people are so worried about the big 0.
You don’t have to be worried about it if you have been taking care of yourself but on the other hand if you have been smoking shisha on the daily, drinking like a sailor and have no notion of what healthy is; you are in troooouble. Your skin is already starting to look like a 70 year olds, your hairline is already looking desperate and your eggs are shriveling-that goes for men too. Let us be honest, that does not make you the pick of the hour either. That is why people worry about the big 0 because your 20 year old cells are aging too and not working as they used to.
Dating when you are over thirty means you have no time for games
You have no time for people who are not sure of themselves. You have no time for someone who will go round and round in circles to get their point to you across. You have no time for someone who wants to act like an adolescent. Right now you are just ready to have adult conversations and not what nail color someone likes or what road trip someone drunk until they died. You did all that in your 20s.
Are they in or are they out because no offense, you have things to do
You don’t want to approach someone only for them to have been wasting your time all this time. If you are dating for something more serious other than fun then you want to get this across from day one. You do not want someone running you around in circles so that you can ‘prove’ yourself to them. You could have just as simply picked the other person who was ready to work on this with you. So are they out or are they in?
You forget simple communication
Don’t hate on your date if they are in or over this age bracket if they forget to get back to you. This is when people are busy and if they had not figured themselves out, they are now starting to. They will forget about you at times and that is what dating over this age bracket is all about. They will forget to text you back because just when they were about to something actually did come up.
When all relationships are not working, you start to wonder if that one you let go of long ago in your youth was the one
You will start to wonder about that one girlfriend or boyfriend you split up with. Did you end something that should have been the one? Did you disappoint them and mess something good up. This is when you start stalking people on social media to find out what happened to them. If something ended, trust me, it is in the right place. Even if they are still single, you might try resuscitating it, bring it to life and end up tied to something that should have stayed where it was-in your past.
Advice for while dating at 30+: ‘don’t be desperate’.That is how a lot of people end up making fast and bad decisions. You are in a hurry. Why? Biology? Someone got pregnant at 50 unless you have not been taking care of yourself. Just take your time in getting to know your dates and before you commit to them. Are they the ones for you? Really?
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