Using the ‘No’ pill to reduce stress
28 June 2016, 10:37
This little word is so powerful and can help you avoid so much stress in your life. Usually, the most common cause of stress is having too much to do and too little time in which to do it. Despite knowing this, many people will still agree to take on more responsibilities.
Training yourself to say “No” to non-important requests from friends and family will increase your self-confidence and also help reduce your level of stress.
There are many reasons why we don’t like using the word “NO “even when we feel overwhelmed by the tasks we already have. This could include and not limited to the following:
1. Our need to help others
2. Desire to be liked or loved
3. Fear of rejection
4. Avoidance of conflict
5. Anxiety at losing opportunities
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Always remember that you are the CEO of your life and no one has the right to control or force you to take on a responsibility you are not comfortable with. However, the barriers described above are real and you need to know that they exist and learn how to overcome them.
Nothing is more liberating than knowing that you are in charge of your life and you can always say “No” to avoid unnecessary pressure without being as being considered mean.
It is always advisable to be kind, firm and gentle as you refuse offers and requests from colleagues, friends and family. Think of phrases that show why you cannot do the task at the required time but you would consider it when your conditions are conducive.
Examples of such phrases are:
“I am sorry but I can’t go with you to the village over the weekend as I had other plans”
“Now is not a good time to talk as I’m in the middle of something. Why don’t you call me after work hours?”
“I’d love to do this, but I’m already subscribed in another program. Thanks for asking though”
As you practice this important exercise, you find more control of your time, emotional peace and happiness.
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