Understanding your date
04 July 2016, 15:51
Nairobi - More than 42 tribes= you have to deal with
people that you don’t understand and they don’t get you neither. That is why we
are a circus. Everyone is trying to have one up on the other.
When someone asks you out on a date, we
don’t ask where they come from. We just get the name and number; the last names
come later and most of us don’t even know where some names are from.
So you two date for a while. We both just
skim the surface on our backgrounds because truth is; most of our families are
like a bomb waiting to happen- dirty linen and all. So you like it because your
date is not asking and they are not bothered.
Until that moment it is actually becoming
serious and you start getting invited to family events, gatherings or mourning.
Then culture shock happens. It is at these moments that you start re-evaluating
whether it was love, lust or infatuation…or drugs.
Embracing someone else’s culture and
background is quite easy when it is just talking and telling of stories until
the moment you are really experiencing it when it comes to taboos and customs.
Some they do not even let you know until you commit that faux pas and you
become the talk of the family or worst case scenario, the family.
If you are dating and you are thinking it
is serious, do your research and not from your peers. Our peers don’t know
anything. You need to go talk to the old folks so that they can tell you the
truth in black and white. Ask yourself if you can handle it thereafter.
Don’t wait until it is time for the wedding
negotiations and you see some strange activities and wonder if you are in a
Nigerian outfit. The earlier you educate yourself, the better for you to decide
whether you can handle it or you need to move on. Some of our tribes have very
strange ideas and you will not want to find out after the first born.
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