This man is trying to waste my time
30 November 2015, 13:23
Nairobi - What do you want? What does she want? What do I want? I
swear there is no day that it will ever get old dealing with Kenyan men, there
is just something new and fresh with them. Just when you think you have grasped
it, something… oh sorry, I meant
someone with his own type of drama else pops up.
There is this man that is trying to come into my life;
trying to come in to waste my time. Little does he know that I know and I know
he knows that I have no expiration date. So I am not in any particular hurry to
get myself into any situation that does not improve my situation. The goal of
any relationship in my opinion is to grow into a better person, learn something
new and when you are with that person they should be helping bring that.
The epitome of downgrading in any relationship is never
particularly dating someone not as good as what you might have had before. The
epitome is when the new person even after a while of being with them you are
still in the same place, never improving, stagnated, never moving forward but
What are you doing?
So this man calls me and wants me to come see him. It was a
no from me because after the first experience I knew he was not the one for me
and I told him. He insists and so I ask for what because you know I do not want
you. He tells me ‘Just come, relax and talk.’ I ask talk about what and I ask
so that I can pay for my own food like the last time. I can afford my own food
just like most women, thing is when you ask me for a date aren’t you the one
that pays for it and if I ask you, I am the one paying for it? Same excuse like
last time about being broke and a bad time of the month, in my head I was just
think that was poor planning on his part even if he had better intentions. I
sooner got to the bottom of it and broke him down because I was also not in the
mood. He admits he just wants to be able to see me on a relationship basis but
the dates will be at the house. See why I think Kenyan…okay let us say some Kenyan men need to audition for the
circus? They would make very good clowns. They are always clowning. The worst
part is most of us women are complaining about it but let me tell you a secret,
that is because you allowed him to get you there. Just one quarter and I swear
you will forever be in ring with that man.
You see there is nothing wrong with the dates at the house
but for me that is when you are already in a relationship and a couple. This
one was trying to get me with shortcuts. I just lost respect for him because
with him, the efforts are based on what he wants and never what I want. I just
knew this one trying to get someone to have sex with on a regular basis. It
does not matter if he was really giving me first place or really hell bent on
making me his woman; but the efforts were not for me but for him to get what he
If you ever want to have a nice relationship never settle
for someone who wants to give you crumbs alone. Never! It will never change
when they get in a better situation. The moment you do, that is all that that
person will always see when they are with you and that is why most well doing
men here, get a second wife after the first.
She spent her years struggling with him, lifting him up and doing the
most to ensure he is okay; allowing him shortcuts because he complained. He
gets where they needed to be and she is now not good enough because he needs
someone who will represent his better status.
Don’t be that woman for any man. If you know your value and
understand it, put it like a price tag on your forehead. If that man really
wants you, he will make sure he gets you what you want and where you need to
be. That is what I call upgrading in relationships; becoming better with
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