Things you just have to stop doing when you get a girlfriend
23 June 2016, 15:17
Nairobi - Someone, a friend of mine, was telling me
he had to break up with his girlfriend because she had gotten it into her head
that they should spend all his free time with her.
So I asked what he meant. He
says the woman just wanted all his weekends and he cannot stomach that idea.
One weekend or two in a month maybe but not all the time and he is also busy.
‘You want a girlfriend but one who acts like one of your boys you mean?’ He
gives an affirmative and I just rolled my eyes because he seemed so proud of
himself for maintaining his bachelor status because women are annoying.
cannot blow off your girl for a good time with the guys
Maybe if you told her of the plans beforehand
but if she has plans for you, you better entertain them. Then let her know next
time you are off on your own. The point is, you will have to re-arrange
yourself and not be as random as you would have been with your guys.
can never be broke
There is a reason I tell people not to date
when they are still trying to get it together. Relationships are expensive; she
wants to go out, she wants to get surprises and she just wants to pop up when
you least expect it and she will not want to stay at home most of the time. Getting blind drunk with the buddies on a
weekend and not being able to find your wallet is unacceptable. You will see.
Yes, someone will say but there are more ways of showing love other than
treating your girl a certain way. That takes a special type of woman to accept
and not be offended.
time is no longer yours
That is the problem my friend had. He was
not done being a bachelor but he still wanted a ‘homie’ in a skirt. As
offensive as it sound and claustrophobic, your girl might try doing things on
her own or with her girlfriends but when you are dating, especially initially,
she wants when she picks her phone and calls you, you have nothing to do. You
were just idle and waiting.
cannot watch porn
Unless she is into it and encourages it,
never let her find you. It is just a thing for women. They want to know they
are the best thing that has ever happened in your universe, it just turned your
life around and changed you. Especially when it comes to watching porn.
make jokes about her
Ever. She might have laughed it off when
you were dating but hanging her out to dry will annoy her. It will be funny
when it is just the two of you but when it is even in front of her girls it
will annoy her.
don’t go out with her friends
It normally starts innocently with coffee
to help you get back in her good graces through her friend. It ends up badly
when you make it a habit.
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