Things nobody will teach you about men
04 July 2016, 12:49
Nobody should ever lie to you that you will never find yourself in a situation you want to return to your parents. Reason? You cannot understand his thinking in some things. He just shocks you to near suffocation. One day you agree on pursuing a particular project and a few days later, he comes up with another and says that is the perfect one for the family. He forgets you are part of the family and you need to be consulted. You just wonder what went wrong. It irritates you to the bone marrow, you argue the whole night and wakes up the following morning to inform you that he is going to the bank to withdraw money to start off the project. That is difficult to understand but you have to understand. He is the man of the house.
Here are some of the things nobody will teach you about living with a man:
Humility is a sacrifice. Humility has a different meaning when a man you love is in the picture. It can be a bitter virtue but one that determines whether you will have a happy or ever fighting family. It does not matter if you are the respectable managing director of a global firm, renowned aerospace engineer or reputable diplomat who fixes international conflicts when everybody else has given up; when you go home, you are a mere wife and mother. Nothing else.
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You will have to consult him on an issue concerning your family regardless of your compact knowledge in it, listen to him contribute the irrelevant but finally agree on something workable and achievable. And when both of you are mad at each other, as the wife you are forced to start the conversation and sometimes apologise for the mistakes you never committed. Nobody will teach you that. It is a practical experience and serves as a solution to a peaceful marriage life.
Staying happy is a choice. Please rethink before getting into marriage; are you tying the knot with a man because you need him to make you happy? Shock on you! You will be surprised. The things that make him happy may be working on the reverse for him. So when you are happy, he is sad. So what is that? It means change of tact. More often, you will be forced to do away with many things to stay happy. If you were extremely cautious on some things, you will be prompted to do the otherwise if he reacts in the negative.
It is easier to change your perception to accommodate him than expect him to do so. Men can be so rigid and the best way to counter that is being intelligently gentle enough to break his bones. Well, not literally but change his way of handling you without notice.
Men are men and they will never be women even for a second. It is all about learning their personality traits and manipulating them to your advantage and the family's too.
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