Things men do when they are not planning to commit to you
23 August 2016, 19:24
Nairobi - Normally we exhaust points on what they do when they are planning to commit to you but what about the opposite? What if you are waiting for someone who is not interested in you- trust me I take my own advice.
You can be waiting for a commitment from someone who is never planning to give you that.
You can be rearranging yourself, your life, for someone who has someone else in mind- they are not with them but they would choose them over you any day.
He is never bothered by your success
You know the way as a couple, you celebrate each other’s triumphs no matter how small they are. This one, big, small, adequate they will say a barely there congratulations or if you are to go for an interview, they are just like good luck and back to something mundane. They are not bothered with how you feel, are you happy, excited, anxious- they do not care they would rather go back to talking about small issues that don’t involve you.
He is rarely interested in you
A man who only texts you to ask you to send nudes then disappears until next time is not someone you should consider for long term. He only keeps up conversation, maybe for once you feel like they really do care but then they ask for what they want from you and you do not hear from them for a while. Unless you are the one to communicate and the conversation is barely there. It is like you are forcing it.
He is busy
I was talking to this man, he is out of the country at the moment but he will be back at the end of the month. In one of our conversations he actually got out of his way to tell me he is not sure of his itinerary when he lands. I saw the signs way before, I told him, ‘relax. I know what this is. Don’t worry that I am thinking you are the love of my life and I will be camping at the airport to pick you up.’ You see I am always ready, I have no time to force myself on a man.
He does not hide the other women from you
When a man actually cares, even if you are not anything and he does not want to hurt whatever you have; he will go out of his way to make everyone else be meaningless. On the other hand if you have this man, he talks to them, WCW and it is never you, he talks to you about them and tells you of his encounters with them, keep it pushing. Even if this would have been something, let him come when he learns to respect what you could be with him but do not take him when he can still be like that with them.
You are never invited
You know the one whom when you are around always tells you what he did that weekend and all the people that came and when you ask why you weren’t invited; there are crickets in the background. Either he thinks you are boring; which is not what you want your new boyfriend to think of you. Or you are just a diversion, when he is bored- not his girlfriend.
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