The worst piece of advice you can listen to as a married woman
20 June 2016, 20:55
Nairobi - As a writer, you tend to come across a lot
of literature, stories, trash, gossip but mostly trash. When it comes to
marriage, everyone is an expert and everyone has a lot to say particularly
about yours- both close associates and those ones that do not even know you. If
you are not smart enough, you may end up listening to the wrong type of advice
from someone who has no clue about what they are talking about. There is
nothing wrong with listening but as a grown woman, you need to know how to
separate the wheat from chaff.
sex as a weapon or reward
There are a lot of ways you can get what
you want from your marriage or relationship but if you tend to go towards
manipulation, you will hurt yourself in the long run. There is good
manipulation but there is bad manipulation which makes the other person feel
shortchanged. Bad manipulation is the reason we have the sponsor situation,
side chick and all those other people that are willing to give it up for
literally nothing. Because there was a not so smart wife who was told, just use
sex as a tool. Don’t worry, there is a lady that will help you and once they go
down that route, after the first time, the rest is a piece of cake. Hell fire
will burn them but you will also be there because you instigated it.
men do this…Don’t let it happen to you. You should…’ said all friends to their
Most marriages start with people being on a
cordial note but wait until you really get into those chamas. Then it is a screw is normally twisted in a woman’s head.
You were all doing fine until the birds started to whisper. You need to watch
the people you listen to. You never know where a woman’s problems in her marriage
came from. And you will never know if she is the one that started it all
herself. If things are working out, just keep your own counsel. The less people
you let in, the less the drama.
I hope the two of you had a talk about
money before deciding to settle down. If you did not, it is going to cause
problems and the longer you avoid it, the more the issues. What you agree on is
what you should stick to. Your mother will tell you to hide stuff, works both
ways. You can hide for the family benefit. On the other hand, hiding at times
ends up badly when bad investment decisions are made or when you die before him
and the lawyer gets everything-because you never told anyone.
Your friend will tell you to keep your
money yours that is ambiguous because I will not lie that I like my money being
mine. That is the best way to make sure a man does not stop taking care of his
family because he knows you can. You can help out with the bills though.
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