The type of men I submit to
10 October 2016, 21:05
Nairobi - When a pan of cold water with a frog in it
is placed on fire, the frog does not jump out immediately. It is sort of a
gradual thing. Up until that water is actually very hot and boiling, is when
the frog jumps out. Before it was just calm, adjusting itself to the surroundings.
I think it is sort of the same thing with
us women. I am not saying we are frogs. But we can relate on some levels. What
is a frog? Is it a cold-blooded animal or amphibian, I really did not like
biology. I actually have to Google the answer. I was actually right, it is both
of those things; not so bad for a science hater,
no offense but I did really fail this subject.
Women are adaptable like frogs- to a point!
A woman will have a type but as proven since time immemorial, we adjust our
tastes depending on the circumstances. Today I will like tall but when tall is
shady and lazy but average is hardworking and spends on me- I adapt! Sort of
the like the frog and the hot water!
What does this have to do with women and
their submissiveness? I will talk about it, long but not too long. Just so you
can understand, the men, mostly Kenyan men. Since they will not shut up about
As a woman, get into my head for a minute.
We are dating, I am very sweet on you; do you think that I go into the relationship
with a combative mind-set? That I am being nice now and just biding my time
until I can start bringing my true colours? There is that element but not the
way you think.
Women approach relationship with a very
It is the type of temperature you keep
introducing that determines the reaction you will get from her.
While dating, she will be worried about
you, ask you what you want to eat and if you are okay; because in the beginning
you are treating her nicely. You take her out, actually make effort, and buy
her a gift or two. You impress her, you make her feel nice- that is why she is
sweet. She wants to please you and that is where the element of submissiveness
comes in. You will not see her trying to haggle with you every inane point.
She is agreeable and willing. What happens
after you settle her in a relationship with you or you marry her? You introduce
her to new temperatures. It is that simple really. You become the hot boiling
water she wants to get away from. You do less but expect more from her. You
cannot demand submissiveness from a woman who no longer feels appreciated or
wanted in a situation. You cannot do things once in a while unlike you used to
and make her adapt in minutes.
For a woman, it is the gradual effect and
once she is trying to get away from it; you will not so easily bring it back
that is when the combatant comes out. No matter how many good intentions you
have, she has already adapted to the changes and the reactions you are now
getting are not of the lady you first liked but the lady you eventually made.
She will approach you with a dose of apprehension that is when you ask why you
no longer do this for me, you are first met with disdain and not
Men, the ball has always been in your
caught, if you do not know how to play it; sit down and let the real men do so
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