The thing with dealing with a passive aggressive husband
17 August 2016, 21:04
Nairobi - If your boyfriend or husband is the type to always apologize whenever there is an issue so that you can move on from it that is not a good sign.
Most women feel good when their partner is always ready to shoulder the blame or quick to apologize for any issues they might have in the relationship. It feels good short term until you find out that in the long term it actually hurts your relationship when you partner cannot sit you down and make you own up to your side of things.
If your partner automatically says ‘sorry’ even before you have finished a sentence they are holding back a lot of things they would like to tell you about you but would rather keep it to themselves.
It is like they are saying, ‘here we go again…’ with a rolling of their eyes only that they are actually doing it mentally. They have found a way to make you sound like a consistent robot that never has anything of importance to talk about other than to nag and complain.
It is a habit, the minute you notice it, you should kill it. If he apologizes once or twice in a month for something you did, that is nice but make sure it does not extend to a level where the two of you cannot even talk about it.
It will reach a point where he sees you as being only of unnecessary talk and conversation. Or when you do talk, he is actually tuning you out. That is how urgent matters get in one year and leave from the other; he was never paying attention because he thinks you have nothing of importance to say.
If he is not looking to you for conversation, you bet he is finding it somewhere else and it always starts innocently where everyone agrees that nothing would happen. It is just talking- right!
That is how he ends up finding another women being more relevant than you when he sees her as more intelligent and someone he can relate with.
Don’t be the problem in your own relationship. Work on it before it works on you.
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