The question every woman asks themselves
22 January 2016, 19:35
Nairobi - When you Google menial you will find that it means: ‘not requiring much skill or prestige’.
I was reading something on the internet. It was talking
about a certain man just here in our homeland, Kenya who let go of his pride
and ego and decided to sell eggs- the boiled ones with kachumbari-not the ones on trays which everyone does. But the ones
who hawk to you by the side of the club or bar while you party. He let go of
his pride and decided since he can’t get a job to just do that. His wife on the
other hand was selling chapatis by the side of the road (it is rent free you
know). They are making quite a significant amount from it as his friend
narrated. But when the friend saw him he did not quite believe because he
thought, ‘wow, you really are selling boiled eggs on the road.’
So I sat down and really thought to myself, this guy was not
doing that bad in terms of doing his own business and his own thing. The first
thing I asked myself, I actually pictured myself selling eggs by the side of
the road and then when that was not working, I wondered if I could date someone
selling eggs by the side of the road. Before you discount this, imagine how
many eggs this guys sell in a night, for twenty shillings, to all those drunk,
hungry club revellers. He was making figures in the 100 K by the end of the month.
Something most people sitting in an office have never been able to make in
their 20 years working for someone. Just imagine, that is a lot of money
especially if you don’t have kids.
So as a woman you are given an option; jobless man or man
still looking for office work; or man selling eggs and making a good profit.
As a man, you are given an option; jobless spouse or spouse
earning 30K from office work or spouse selling chapati by the side of the road
and bringing something home at the end of the day. What choice do you imagine
most people would make?
Ego and pride influence a lot of our decisions when it comes
to choosing the people we eventually settle with. We do like to save face with
people who are not even paying our bills. We like being able to say, ‘my wife
works for…’ rather than show your friends
that woman who sells chapati at the side of the road is your wife, so they had
better be her customers.
You do not want your girlfriends to laugh at your boyfriend
who has a grill by the bar. You want to be able to walk into the bar with him
so that he can buy all of them drinks. No time for your man to party while he
hawks his wares.
That is why the Kenyan man will marry his society wife for
everyone to see then get someone’s help pregnant and she goes and stays at home
in the village. The true definition of city wife and village wife; the one he
presents to his peers and the one he secretes away because her English is not
Someone would rather complain of being broke and dying of
hunger than have their friends see them selling cheap wares on the road or
heaven forbid their spouse hawking in the market.
Pride and ego in relationships is the reason why we settle
for fake relationships. We care more about what the outside sees rather than
what is happening in the inside of that relationship. You would rather look
good rather than being taken down a peg or two.
I am still trying to figure out if I can date a hawker
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