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The problem with having many baby daddies

13 June 2016, 14:06 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi - The above piece summarises it simply. Once is rarely an issue because things happen; as long as you are honest about it though.

But then, there is an upcoming trend. First time, then second, and a third and by the time you are hitting a forth thinking that you are ready to settle down, you know you have messed up. The problem with today’s ladies, I don’t know, if it is that you were not taught how to take care of yourself, you do it blindly or you are a very hopeful person when it comes to each man that you date.

Men normally think that it happens because she is all over and careless. Maybe it is that but I have always chosen to think that she is hopeful with every relationship she gets into. You date a man, you think this is it, you let your guard down and before you know it; baby number one. The man was not thinking of you as wife, so he leaves. You decide to get back in the game after getting over it, mistake most women make, they never mention a child; so date, let guard down and then there is number two.  He was not the one-you are now on a roll.

Mistake number one is never letting the men you date know that you already have a child

I have always found the best contraceptive is when a man finds out you have responsibilities and he can be a part of them as well when he was never part of the decision making. Another man’s child, that he might have to take care of; that man will make sure you are on your pills if he decides to go ahead and he will use whatever he needs to use to make sure that he only gets you pregnant when he is ready to be with you.

This is the best advice I will ever give you as a single mother that has an active dating life. Let the man know so that if he leaves, he is leaving early and if he stays it is because he wants to.

If it is a serious relationship and your children are with the mother at home, you better start talking early

You see, some women these days have not gotten to understand that marriage has become so fickle that the slightest thing, no one has to stay with you. He will leave if you think you can get away with some things. It is serious, you guys are planning marriage but wait, you never told him that your mum is taking care of one or two of your juniors back at home-you are in trouble. Don’t hide something and think that as soon as you get the officially committed they are obligated to stay with you. Whether you admit it or not, that’s a responsibility that this man will have to take on as a future husband; education and what not especially if he has been supporting you. At this point he has no idea of the extent of what it is about to become so early in the relationship is the best time to tell someone. They go in with open eyes if they decide to stay.


Children with different fathers will always be an issue for you is the men also keep popping up

I understand that you are hiding it because you don’t want a potential serious boo to think you are a w****.  Baby daddies who keep popping up will always be a problem in a relationship if they are not coming around with good intentions but to cause problems. The worst are the ones that are not even helping you take care of their contribution so it is you struggling and your boo sees what the future will be like and they all run away. Please choose to be horizontal, or vertical or whatever with someone who is responsible because at least when it is all said and done; they will not let their own offspring suffer.

Unless all this was actually your choice after the first time; in which case-who cares if you don’t?

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