The 10 Sex Personalities
03 October 2016, 08:07
There is personality in the bedroom as well, and our ignorance of this fact is perhaps what is wrong with our sex lives.
Libido types are just about the beliefs we hold on sex, what we make of intimacy and our desires in bed. Knowing this opens understanding of both our partners and ourselves, and knowledge of whether we are matched or not, and what can be done about it.
1. The Sensual Type
They value sex for its emotional connection than for its physicality. For them sex is an expression of love and an opportunity to share of themselves with their partner. Sex that is all passion and no sensual is dissatisfying and disappointing.
2. The Erotic Type.
For these sex is a raging fire, not some slow simmer. They want it fast, they want it hard and they want it hot. And they are for quality. Preferable for them is a single encounter but into which everything is packed. Intense quickies are just the thing for them.
3. The Dependent Type.
Dependents need sex to distract them from the stresses of life. This means they will need it very often, perhaps more than you can handle. If they don’t get they get angry as it is their primary method of coping with life’s stresses.
4. The Entitled Lovers
Entitled lovers are selfish and feel you owe them sex. Your unique condition and beliefs and desires do not impress upon them. If you turn them down they will try to guilt you into obliging them, or will get outright violent.
5. The Addictive Type.
These are the perpetual yes people where sex is concerned. It doesn’t matter that they are in a monogamous relationship, or that cheating has caused them trouble before. The moment they are propositioned they are game. Whereas other people may cheat to supplement what is lacking in their relationships, addicts cheat simply because an opportunity has presented itself.
6. The Reactive Lover.
Reactive lovers follow your lead. They exist solely to please you, even at the expense of their own pleasure. They do not initiate sex, but are always available. They also do not express themselves in bed. It may soon become boring if one partner does all the work.
7. The Stressed Type
Performance anxiety ruins it for this group. Probably due to an unpleasant experience they went through, they have a lingering fear of an inability to satisfy. This makes them afraid of sex, even though they desire it. To help them along it is important not to put any pressure on them and to encourage them to overcome their anxiety.
8. The Disinterested.
Not just interested in sex and don’t mind if they never have it again. This may be due to low libido or a traumatic prior experience. They may relent for your sake every now and then, but it won’t be enough for you. They may enjoy touching and cuddling though.
9. The Detached Type.
This is more of a temporary situation. Because of pre occupying issues, they have scaled down on their appetite. This may be because they have been temporarily turned off by the actions of their lovers or a busy schedule. They may choose to masturbate rather than have sex.
10. Compulsive Partners.
Compulsive lovers can only get turned on with the help of a fetish or a fantasy. Some measure of fetishism and fantasizing is normal, but the reliance the compulsive type places on it is actually a handicap. This may be off putting for their properly adjusted partner.
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