Taking responsibility for your own happiness
11 November 2015, 17:47
Happiness is a feeling everyone craves and desires to have. Experts call it a “subjective well-being” which means a combination of life satisfaction and having more positive emotions than negatives ones.
Unfortunately, many people live long and die having experience little or no happiness. Lack of happiness is associated with work stress, strenuous relationships or failure.
Often, people lean on other aspects of their lives to be happy, yet they are the sole forces behind their happiness.
I know many people who depend on their romantic partners to be happy which means that when the relationships end, they become unhappy.
It’s not your partner’s job to make you happy. It’s your job to make you happy. Of course, it’s easy to feel good when your partner is acting in a way that you want. But needing them to be a certain way in order for you to feel good is bondage.
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Thinking that they’re always going to be in a good mood and directing their affectionate attention towards you is misguided because it is not always about you. And hence, the need for you to be responsible for your own happiness.
If you’re looking for someone or something to complete you, you’re looking in the wrong direction for the lasting happiness, wholeness, and fulfillment that you truly seek.
Wouldn’t it be better if you could find a way to feel how you want to feel regardless of what you’re partner is saying or doing? Regardless of how much you are earning? Despite what your friends say or do?
When you learn that you are responsible for your own happiness and when you learn how to consistently align with it, you will realize a positive transformation.
You will have the freedom to choose if and when to spend time with someone else, switch careers, choose friends or make certain decisions in life.
This way, your relationships will be more meaningful, more loving, freer, and most importantly, more fun because you don’t hold other people responsible for your own happiness.
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