Stages of grieving
01 September 2016, 19:27
Okay, Stages of grief Grief is a normal emotional reaction to loss.
We all experience loss differently, it is a very subjective experience.
My "small" loss may be big loss to someone else.
It does not happen in death but many situations may be loss. Loss of a job, loss of health, a marriage through divorce or separation etc.
We go through a grieving process which follows different stage.
1) At first, we are in denial...this can't be happening. He is gone but will be back soon, they will recall me to work soon, this ain't terminal illness. Short lived denial helps us survive a crisis but if it goes on and on, it keeps us from dealing with reality and we get stuck. We continue to live as though nothing happened and so do not deal with the issues at hand.
2) Anger. Why me.? Anger could be directed at anything. Self , others, and for the nice Christians, it could be directed at God. This is when we act out in protest. We may hurt others or riot since God does not make "sense".
3) Bargaining. We make promises, especially to God and self. God if you change this....I will serve you, I will be nice, I will, will. We want God to do something in exchange of the good we are offering.
4) Depression. Done with denial, anger, the bargaining pleas do not yield, we slip into some helplessness, hopelessness, nothing works. We give up. Self harm is very possible during this stage and all support the earth and heaven can afford is critical here. It's characterized by extreme sadness, tearfulness, loss of appetite, irritability, trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, it could even be excessive sleep. The hopelessness, helplessness and worthlessness may deteriorate to one being suicidal.....it may be a thought, ideation, plan or even an attempt. Support, support and more support.
5) Acceptance: reality check...I have to live with this, nothing I do can change the situation. This is where one gets ready to deal with the situation as it is. "Dust yourself and move on", is the resolve one makes.
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