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Sometimes, mothers give bad relationship advice

19 September 2016, 11:57 Shakila Alivitsa

Nairobi - My sister needs some serious TLC in the form of some thorough lashing on her behind.

Some family friends came over yesterday and what was meant to be an hour visit extended to eight o’clock in the night. So we are all grown and we can express ourselves openly around the folks now they cannot throw us over the knee but my mother still knows how to throw stuff.

Conversation eventually turned to relationships and everyone was talking about what they are hoping for and what they want.

I don’t know if you have ever read this but my sister has this idea that she is just going to school as an option. She is not intending to use her education for any blue collar jobs or even white collar jobs.

Her (last night): I am just reading so that I can tell my kids when they ask that I was bright and so they know I am intelligent. I will just work for a short while then marry a rich man. I am not cut out for working.

So all the dads stare at her and the mums also stare. I am making my usual face because this was not news to me.

Then my mother starts, ‘Amen! Whatever you confess so shall you possess!’ And all the mothers chime in as well. So one of them asks her if she is going to be helping out with bills. She says yes.

So I don’t know if she had forgotten that she will not be working hence no money of her own to be paying any bills or helping out. I kept quiet because I know when to open my trap and when to shut it and this was the time to keep it shut and listen.

The mothers encouraged her because they thought that is a good way to think.

How is that a good way to think?

My mother knows from experience how bad it is not to have your own source of income from paying fees for all her sisters’ children.  We are not talking about one or two kids but four; you have not added all the others.

Yet she is here telling her own daughter, ‘You are right. Get yourself a rich husband, be comfortable and completely rely on him.’

If you read my stuff, you already know I do not trust men, they change their minds every second. Told those mothers as well. One minute he loves you, the second minute he is in love elsewhere and not caring what happens to you. So imagine my sister in a situation where the man changes his mind after helping her bear some broods and she has nothing of her own.

This is where African problems start. She will come and look for the sister to help. It will not be a situation where I planned for my own kids, and know what to do with my life as I planned it. It will be family= you carry family problems as well despite the fact that she created the situation herself. Why would you go to school the make yourself redundant? That baffles my mind.

We have this sort of love- hate relationship because she thinks she is smarter than me so I cannot give her advice and tell her, her thinking is wrong. As long as mother says she is right, then she is right.  Cannot wait for this to eventually unfold because I can tell you it will be very juicy to hear the ‘I wish’ or ‘mum, it is your fault’.


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