Solving jealousy issues in order to save your relationship
06 June 2016, 14:09
I was having lunch with my girlfriend and
her latest boo. He was on his phone.
I am not sure whether he was checking messages or whatever but just when he is
about done; my friend stops whatever she is doing and extends her head to see
what he was doing in his phone. I do not even think that the relationship is
two months old but she is already checking his phone.
He gives her a quizzical look and I laugh
that strangled laugh (ha.ha.ha) to
lighten the mood and she just smiles like a cat but I saw the look he gave her.
By the way, women, never let a man know you are insecure because that taps into
your confidence; the one he thinks you have. Confidence makes you sexy to a man
even if you have already nabbed him.
But the minute you show insecurity, it points to a lack of confidence in self
and that makes a man wonder whether he made a right choice in being with you.
He starts wondering whether you are not as beautiful as he thought you are and
that will make him dump you. Men like the idea that they won the race by having
the best. That is how it works. Just don’t show insecurity; wait until late in
the relationship to be a paranoid person.
If you really like someone, you will not
want to end the relationship if you think you have a really good chance of a
good relationship as long as you can manage their insecurities and jealousy.
will have to be too open and transparent with your activities.
You will have to be more transparent with
your activities as compared to other couples. They will ask you anything and
everything and you will have to just tell them what you are up to even though
as an adult you head rebels against such. You will not want to but you will
have to just to earn their trust slowly. ‘Who are you talking to?’ ‘Sam/Jane’
(don’t lie just tell them). If you lie, you impress upon them that now there is
something they need to figure out. They
will eventually just learn to trust you.
will be a job but you will be the one that makes them feel secure
You will have to convince them that no one
in the world holds a candle to them. You cannot even sneak a look while you are
with them when someone extremely beautiful or handsome passes. You will have to
be eternally blind as long as you are in that relationship. They will look,
then they will ask you a dumb question; ‘Isn’t she beautiful?’ ‘She has a really
nice ass’ Don’t lie and say, ‘No’. Say, ‘I had not even noticed. We were
talking. Remember?’ Then look and say ‘Oh’ and act negligent in your perusal.
It will pain you, but you chose them. You will slowly have to work at this
until they learn not to ask you such things.
will have to tease them about their relationships with the opposite sex as well
This is how it will work. I am not sure if
they are the catch of the century but if they are not, you are going to have to
make up stuff like how someone was staring at them. It will make them feel like
it is normal for you to have other interactions outside the relationship just
as it may be for them. It assures them that they do not have to mean
anything. And you are not trying to do
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