Should you tell on a cheating friend?
25 April 2016, 23:57
Nairobi - What do you do if you find out that someone’s partner or
spouse is cheating? Obviously an adult will know why we even have to ask
because grownups just don’t go shooting their mouth aimlessly.
First of all, are you sure? Some people create problems in
other people’s relationships based on assumptions. At times you see someone
having lunch and you are quick to run to their spouse to tell them that they
saw them with someone of the opposite sex. What they told their spouse is that
they were having a business meeting. Most people do not follow up to ask a
question like, ‘With a man or with a woman? ’ But now that you have put that
notion in their head, it starts becoming fishy.
That is when you know you should mind your own business. Don’t jump to
assumptions over what is going on in someone’s house. If they say they are
fine, leave it at that. It is not your job to disapprove it.
When it is someone’s wife or husband that is when you know
you really have to think because you do not want to be the reason a whole
family is torn apart. You also have to think of their kids because you are not
going to think of the couple only. How will it affect them and whether the
spouse you have to tell is a rational person? The last bit is really important
because they are going to react. How they react is a whole other issue.
This is how you know you do not want to be in people’s
business. At times the spouse even knows they just choose to act like they do
not know. So when you go tattling, they give you a look like, ‘You did not have
anything better to do with your time?’
If it is not people you personally know, stay out of it.
People have funny arrangements in their households and you do not want to put
your foot in your mouth.
If it is someone close to you then you really do have
something to think about as to whether you want to be the one to tell them such
a thing because you really know them. You have to think about how it will
affect them. Sometimes it is just best when you have a talk with someone before
you go tell on them; because some people are irrational and do irrational
things when they find out something that might be devastating to them. You do
not want to be the reason someone burns down their house as well as themselves
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