Should women have back-up lovers?
12 November 2015, 18:59
Nairobi - These days’ dating is so unbelievable. You can literally gat
any plan that you want and whomever it is with, they will be onboard. How about
that? Is having a back up a good plan? From a lady’s point of view, that is how
we are advised because it has been discovered that at times you are with
someone who is basically jut wasting your time; then they drop a bombshell on
you. They want someone else and they are not even two weeks old but she is the one. Really? So this back up
plan is actually good for the ladies because it takes us out of such a
situation because no matter how bright you think you are; you are not a bright
as the next man that will get you.
So that we are clear, you are not having sex with the both
of them but just dating the both of them until the right one proves himself. I
have also found that it works for me because it takes out all that emotional
investment you focus on one person. You think you are putting in effort but you
are being annoying and a turnoff. Have you ever thought about it like that? Let
them put in the effort and the one who is right will be fished from that sea.
Having a or many backups can also help you appreciate the
good intentions that someone can actually have for you as compared to this
other one that will just be there biding his time with you. You never want
someone to waste your time, trust me! I have seen how broken and bitter someone
becomes when they look back at the time they spent with someone who turned out
to be no good at all. That is when they start thinking of starting to date at
forty and divorcing this other person. They are anxious and frustrated because
they do not know where or how to start. It does not even have to be forty but
just imagine you met at 25, now you are 32 and they are telling you the
feelings are no longer there. Just remember, with age and experience, men look
like a fine diamond piece from some Congo mine, women on the other hand, the
best you can do is struggle with the ones the younger ones do not find
interesting or go around with a cougar label. Are you ready?
A back up works for the woman because it helps you make the
right decision for you. It helps you find out your preference in the man you
finally end up with because he showed you something you did not see. You
appreciate the love that you and your partner will create because you are sure
it is them and no one else you are yet to see. But is it fair to the men
though? Would any man like to be a certain woman’s back up and why?
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