Religion, your partner and how it might affect you
28 July 2016, 20:13
Nairobi - I was talking to someone and they were
asking me about my faith or rather trying to give me ‘wise’ advice.
It is a normal occurrence in my life
because of my surname. I have a Muslim surname but I am not attired as I should
be as I am Christian- so someone eventually asks, ‘Why is that your name?
Me: It is my father’s name. He is Muslim.
Them: And you are?
Me: My mother is Christian.
Them: How? How does that even work?
Then the second question is, ‘Are they
No one ever comprehends that those two
actually live together but expect them to be separated because we all know that
to be honest, Muslim is a very strict religion so my mother would have had to change
to it. At one time she had the female clothing my father had bought for her
That did not work out though because my
father is one of those I call ‘fake Muslims’. I don’t think he even owns a Kanzu hence why we can all get away by
being whatever we choose to be in that house.
To tell you the truth, if you and your
partner come from different beliefs, brace yourself because you are cheating
yourself you are going to make it work. Those two have never had an easy or a
good marriage. I will be honest with you.
This might have played a part in the way my sisters and I think when it comes
to marriage and relationships.
You want to go to church, someone asks you
what you have benefited from always going and how it has helped your life- yes,
my father once asked my mother that. Then she gave this rebuttal, ‘When have I
even seen you go to yours yet I keep seeing you apparently praying. Did you
fast yesterday? It is Ramadhan and you came late drunk and overslept.’
Don’t joke with religion or beliefs in a
relationship and if you think you will change your mind, you will not even see
it coming. You fix issues differently, someone can marry as many people as they
want yet in another’s belief they are committing sin by association by being a
second, third or fourth wife.
Religion also affects the bedroom (not
talking about my parents here) but some people think doing some things are a
sin and demonic and others just understand missionary. Anything else is evil.
So here you are, you are not trying to cheat but you want to avoid monotony. That
is the day you will bite your own tongue when you partner does not want to
entertain your devilish thoughts. So what will you do?
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