Playing too safe in a relationship leads to endless heartbreaks
15 June 2016, 14:59
Until you fight, you will never know whether you are in a working relationship likely to lead to marriage.
Working so hard to be on the right while dating is a very dangerous 'playing too safe' tactic. A relationship in which you are always cautious of what you say or do is burdensome and indeed operating on a lie.
You need to be free and act with the freedom of speech and association.
When you are with him or her, be the person your mother gave birth to. Pretending to be different to momentarily please your patner leaves you with too much homework to do to maintain a particular standard. That's a burden and a lie. It is dangerous because it denies both of you the right to know each other very well.
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In depth analysis of each other's strengths and weakness helps in determining whether you want to stay in the relationship or walk away. For instance, crack strange jokes and if he is the person quickly snapped into pedigree anger, then you have a choice to make.
A relationship is built on trust and if someone is trying to flirt with you, show her the text. Let her know you are a faithful man, trustworthy enough to share flirtatious messages.
Hiding or deleting messages won't save you for long because she or he will soon find out. But if she turns it around and says you are cheating on her, you know she doesn't trust you enough. There is no need to call someone a wife or husband in future when missed calls could be followed with outrageous accusations of infidelity.
A conflict defines the meaning of a relationship. Cuddling five minutes after a fight tells all of mature people devoted to one another. A conflict exposes weakness in lovers and helps them address them in the appropriate time. Covering them with icy cream is only preparing for exposure to rough edges for such a long time.
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