Plan B in marriage: Good or bad idea?
18 February 2016, 12:31
Nairobi - In this day and age, most people will definitely have said
yes because this day’s separation comes so easy to a lot of people and divorce
is glorified just like the English breakfast.
‘He is not acting right, I will just divorce him. What do I
need this stress for?’
‘She has shown her true colours of not being any type of wife
material. Let me go get myself another wife and show her who the man in this
Basically, when people get into marriage these days, it is
rarely with the intention of actually making it work or recognizing that there
will be hardships that you have to work through. If you get tired of it, the
motto is, ‘you live once, so to hell with them. I am about to move out and show
Is entering a marriage with an escape plan good advice?
No! That is bad advice, very bad advice.
You have a plan B with your financials. You have a plan B with your security in
the relationship. You have a plan B in case you lose your job and have children
but you do not have a plan B when it comes to marriage because you are
technically giving it the right foundation to fail.
It is as simple as that. The minute you have not yet tied
the knot to someone and you are already having second thoughts about them or
you already have another person in line in case it fails with them to take
over; then they are not the person you should e tying the knot with. Or you are
just not yet ready.
Constantly looking out and thinking that you can do better is
setting yourself up for cheating and adultery.
Truth be told, most couples grow really well together. You
get better pay eventually, dress better, look better, and live better-some of
the ushamba goes with marriage. So
when you get to that point and see other people who were out of your league
taking notice, you lie to yourself on how you could have done better. You cheat
yourself by thinking; this is no longer working for me because I am a different
person now. So you leave all the good things here and chase after the false
mirrors some other person was showing you until it breaks. Now you are
miserable because it is not what you thought it was.
You need to accept the fact that you are with that person
you are with and committed to them in order for any marriage to work. Don’t
enter it with doubts. Do not second guess them and make sure they are of the
same mind as you are. That is the only way it will work out for the two of you.
Having a plan B will always ensure that you are always
looking for reasons why this partnership is not working for you and you would
rather enter into a new partnership with another candidate that has presented
itself. If that is what you were going for in marriage; having multiple
partners, then congratulations you have succeeded. But if you are old school
like the most of us are, then take your time and choose your partner. Do not
have a plan B set up but choose to commit to them completely. That will make it
easier for you guys to deal with any problem that comes back because you are
not looking back or outside but at them.
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