My man thinks I'm insulting him
22 December 2015, 19:03
Nairobi - Do not cry and get too caught up in your emotions? Or does
she mean you be more aggressive when presenting your case? Does she mean that
you pay her ideas or thoughts no mind when the both of you are making a
decision? I can’t say I am talking for all women but I will talk from my point
of view as one of the many. She may agree with me or she may not; we are
different. One woman will want a pushover and another will not like it at all
but lose respect for him.
I think it is just a matter of the man knowing himself and
not allowing the woman to change him in a negative light. Like she will respect
you more if you stand up for what you believe in or your decision rather than
bending over when she looks like she is about to spit mad.
What do we think when
it comes to you and your emotions?
What do I think? I think I am very temperamental; I respect
a man who can be calm in a situation. The odd show of emotion for a loved one
who has passed or in grievous pain is not a bad thing. What we cannot entertain
is someone who gets out of control from every situation. Everything and he is
just bursting; this one is crying here, the other one there throwing jabs and
sniveling. That is not cool at all. Women love to respect the men they are
with. Showing affection, not a bad thing; talking about what is bothering you,
not a bad thing. Crying-depends on the situation and the woman; crying all the
time-definitely a no!
Is manning up about
making all decisions without consultation?
Nothing matters more in a relationship if you cannot build
trust and transparency when it comes to making decisions. The problem comes in
when you keep allowing her to have her way to avoid a confrontation especially
when it comes to making the very important decisions. Manning up here means you
stand your ground when you need to stand your ground. The petty decisions you
can give her leeway but the important stuff, talk about it, consult, consider
but if a point is important to you, keep it.
Sexual dominance; what
I cannot account for your partner’s preference. If she likes
a gentle handle; then you cannot take that away because she will eventually
resent you. If she is into the kinky stuff, there is usually a give and take
here; permission and submission from her. I cannot advise on this one because
sex is never the same for different couples.
Real men don’t care for the babies and tend to them? No,
that is wrong, real men help in rearing their children unless you want them to
abandon you at a home in future. Do real men help their ladies with housework?
I don’t know you arrangement but if she needs help, it is always wise to give
it. It is nice to think of how in the old ages women picked firewood with
children on their back and front and still cooked and cleaned. But times have changed;
they got tired and thought of laundry machines and cookers. That tells you
something; women get tired too. Happy wife, happy life!
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