My man does not reply my messages
13 June 2016, 19:41
Nairobi - Last week, I was in a good mood. I don’t know what I had
drunk because I decided to go on Whatsapp and text everyone that I like to have
a good day. Obviously, there are rules to this because if it was sending the
regular texts that cost me money, my stingy self would never be this
considerate. I sent them all messages and they all got back within minutes
except one. It was a girl, not a man but I was just like, ‘How dare you not reply
and I am blessing your day?’
So I gave her a few hours and when it reached four
hours later, I got in there and gave her all the insults I could think of.
Relax; we have that type of friendship. She calls me back and of course I am
happy because we joked around after she insults me back.
But can you imagine if it is the man you are dating? Or the
one that you like. The one you really want.
You are always the first one texting him or when you call,
if he picks up it is, ‘I will call you back in a bit.’; only to never hear from
the man until you hide your feelings again and text him, only for the guy to
get back with a one word text so you tell yourself, ‘He is busy.’
Let me tell you, he is not busy, if you were that important
to him, he would find and make time. If he can find time to text his mate, go
through those irrelevant Safaricom messages and you can see he is clearly
online on Whatsapp, he is not busy. He is not making important deals; he just
does not think you are that relevant.
I respect those men who show me this trait early while I get
to know them of how irrelevant they think I am because I don’t have time for
that. I will try but after a while, it gets old and you realize that you would
rather be with someone that wants to make that time and is looking to make that
It might seem like a small issue and you will tell yourself
to be mature but when you look at the principles behind it, you realize, you
want someone who will want to talk to you. Not someone the moment they find out
that you like them, they start acting like you are the cheetah and they are the
gazelle. What an awful start to the relationship.
Just remember, unless you see him with a new phone, it did
not get lost of disappear for hours. If he is online, he is online and he is
talking to people not himself. If he is brash, he just does not care enough and
there will always be that undertone in the relationship if you choose to chase
the guy. If they are posting on social media, it hurts but they don’t want to
talk to you or feel like they have to.
The principle behind this article is that someone is showing
you how irrelevant they think you are.
You don’t want them; trust me.
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