My impatience has never really been my best quality
15 June 2016, 17:02
Nairobi - My impatience has never really been my best
quality. I get ticked off pretty easily. I like getting things over and done
with very quickly. I like fast results and instant gratification. It translates
to every aspect of my life; my work, family, and eventually my relationships.
Let me explain the last part.
You see the way women are told let him
chase you for a while so that he can appreciate you more, it does not happen
with me. If I see his interest, I just ask flat out, ‘What do you want?’ Him: ‘To be friends.’ Me: Why? (I need to understand if he expects
something more from me) If no, okay, let us be friends. If yes and I am not
interested I just tell you flat out, it is not going to happen. I know my mind
in seconds, so I will not keep you around with false hopes.
But maybe that is a very bad trait. Maybe I
have told a certain ‘Mr. Right’ no
and now he is happily married somewhere with his lovely family. No, I don’t
think so. None of these clowns I have been dealing with were meant for me but
it might be a different case for you.
I have this friend I am going to try and
emulate. She dated her current boyfriend for over a year before she allowed him to be her boyfriend and he
is not even sure of the status of their relationship. The man is smitten still
running around to try and impress her. He wants PDA, she flips his and off or
moves to the far side of the seat. He wants to take her home; she is not here
for this. She gets in her car, him in his and they go separate ways. He takes
her for weekend vacations as a reward. Hell, I want such rewards.
No, he is not a Kenyan man, I can hear them
groaning already on how much of a buffoon he is. A Kenyan guy’s idea of a
weekend getaway is at some bar binge drinking.
Anyway, you see why I will be running
circles around some man the next time; because at times the wait is worth it. I
am going to play these games men like playing because if you hand them things
on a silver platter, they treat you like metal instead of gold. I like being
treated like a piece of gold so next time, me and my boo (whom am yet to find)
are going to run some championship games and a couple of races before I give
You should do the same too and don’t rush
off with some guy so easily. They might whine about it they like it. You should
not be too dismissive neither because they might be having a rough day with
their presentation (looks, speech and dress) but they might get better as you
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