Men don't like women who talk too much
03 May 2016, 22:06
Nairobi - Apparently, a woman can be too opinionated and with that
regard, that is why she is still single and no man wants her.
How about she might just be single because she is single;
why do we have to put so much reasoning into something that is not really
But still does it mean that when you are in a relationship
and can successfully maintain it, it is because ‘you know your place’ and do
not try to get out of it- woman to woman that is utter hogwash. Am I a
feminist? I am a feminist and I am not a feminist. I will tell you when it is
time to chime girl power but I will also be honest enough with you to know when
it comes to family, some roles just cannot be reversed. As a woman, even while
you are raising you kids/ child with help or without help there are those times
you will admit to yourself that there are just some things you could never do.
That is the honest truth.
Do not try to be in competition with a man to be a man. You
can be in competition as a woman but you will not win it trying to be a man.
Furthermore, when I say, roles cannot be reversed when it
comes to family I do not mean you allow someone to walk all over you when you
are in a situation that does not make you happy. Don’t take nonsense because
the first time you allow it, will be the start of the others to come. If you
want to be courted a certain way, let it be known. If you do not want to share,
let someone know. If you want marriage, don’t allow someone to waste your time.
If you do not want other wives to come after you, better make those threats.
Men do not like threats but it is what it is. If you want to be part of the
discussion, set the tone for it because every time you try to be meek and mild,
that guy will milk it and you will not like the results.
All the above do not mean you sit on someone’s head and try
to fight to be the lead, know you place and fill it.
The biggest feminists are in happy relationships and
marriages because they knew how to play their part; they are not single by the
way. If they are it is just because they choose to or they have not found
someone for them yet. You do not hear any of them crying how they will die
virgins. No one tells you that.
When you do not talk back in a relationship, is when you allow
everyone to have their piece and realize that all those little battles are not
even worth it. You can let your man have some. You only go for that really
important thing that is how you win easily because he recognizes the fact that
it is that important to you. If you keep having arguments about everything and
anything you end up sounding like a broken record that is how you never get
When you are dating, don’t be afraid to put your foot down
on things you cannot stomach. Set the tone early in the relationship so that it
will never have to keep coming back to haunt you. A man can either choose to be
with you after that or leave you so that you can find someone else who will
understand where you are coming from with your reasoning.
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