Male habits ladies should be way of
27 April 2016, 21:05
Nairobi - Being bored, I was eavesdropping on a conversation between
two men. One was narrating a story about a woman that is in his life. It seems
the lady has genuine feelings for the man but this man has a whole different
agenda where she is concerned. I am literally taking a couple of minutes to
find the right words to explain his agenda but I cannot. Sometimes you just
have to say it how it is. He just wants to ‘hit and run’. Let me try and
paraphrase his words. His intention is to do it as long as he can until he gets
bored. Being the ‘gentleman’ that he
is, he has decided to just let the whole situation go because he can see that
she is developing feelings for him and apparently he does not want that. Told
you he was a gentleman. He is going
to do the right thing as a man and
just go quiet on her so that she gets the message.
I was so angry on this lady’s behalf I felt like I want to
be her friend and tell on him. But to some extent I also respected his
decision. You know why? Because rather than lead her on like most guys tend to
do and break someone’s heart he was not going to entertain her as most men do.
A worse man would have kept this lady dangling the whole
time. Getting what he needed from her meanwhile knowing that he did not want
her. You have to respect that.
If you are a woman latching onto a man that does not want to
call you his, let him go. Sex does not cloud someone’s judgment. It is only for
like an hour, fifteen minutes or to some… even a minute and after it is all done and you ask, ‘What are we?’ You are
just two mammals who had sexual relations just like you were before it
If the man prolongs the situation like this individual was
intending to do, it does not mean he is trying to be a father. Look at the people
you try to trap. The same way he is treating you now, it can just be worse
because now you forced a situation on him. You will not get marriage out of
someone who did not want a relationship from you.
I know this nice lady is going to keep calling the man and
wondering why he is sending her to voicemail. I know she is going to send
dozens of texts to try and figure out what happened. I wish I knew her so that
I can help her read the writing on the wall but I cannot but she is not the
only lady that goes through such. Even I have had such moments before, many
ladies do. So what I will say is this; respect a man that lets you go instead
of leading you on.
If he leaves you alone, leave him alone before you get hurt.
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