Maintaining respect and accountability in a relationship
11 July 2016, 20:32
Nairobi - Maintaining respect and accountability in a relationship.
partner cannot keep on repeating the same issues and keep getting away with it
The reason most people are usually in a
mess later on I their marriages is because they are now trying to change their
partner after letting them get away with all that they did earlier on.
Have you ever heard the saying, ‘prayer
does not save marriage?’ It is not saying that praying is bad but you also have
to be accountable to the fact that it takes more than that for it to actually
work. Namely, that the two of you actually act right.
If he was a misogynist from the beginning
and you let him get away with it all that time, what makes you think that you
can actually change the man now when the children are grown. Bickering all the
time about he keeps doing the same things even after you talked about change.
The right way to set a foundation for a
good and fulfilling relationship; is very early on I the relationship. A lot of
people don’t want to do that to avoid a label. Experience long term results by
laying the right foundations.
have to be able to ‘call someone out’ on their bullshit
You know when they talk about good
communications skills they do not just mean talking about the small issues and
the nice things; they also talk about things that tick either of you off. A
partner whom you cannot talk to is not a good partner. It will eventually hurt
your relationships when you are holding grudges, someone does not know about
but you want them to read your mind and know about them.
you feel like they undermine you, you are not being paranoid
It is because they actually are. You need
to learn to speak for yourself when it is just the two of you. Not for others
to intervene, or when others are around; just the two of you.
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